He's not all that. He's been a total ass, these past few months.

Let's see... I can be friends with someone that ridicules me and makes me feel worthless.

Or be friends with my coworker that makes me feel good about myself. Even though he doesn't know I'm gay.

You're not worthless. Remember that with him, and anyone else like him that you happen to meet on this journey called life. Avoid people like him...they are toxic. I pick the co-worker. Why does he need to know that you're gay?

Good Luck.

Thanks Miller. No, he doesn't need to know. No one at my work needs to know. Actually I prefer it that way. They've all made it known how they feel about gays.

But with my coworker, It's fun just to be able to BS with him. He has such an attitude and swagger about him. I know there's no chance in hell, that we could get together. Maybe that's why I enjoy being around him. As he's not a threat.

Unlike my friend, that has come on too strong. My friend has said he will only do this and won't do that. And that's just not for me. I want to be wined, dined and wooed.

So Jay, I will need some luck to find what I want. I've got a long road ahead of me.

Just to clarify: is the gay man you're talking about here the same one you talk about in this thread? They don't sound like one and the same.

Regardless of whether you want to come out or not, you can still be friends with the straight guy. And you don't have to be friends with the gay guy just because you're both gay.

Yes.

That's too bad. He seemed like he showed promise. Oh, well. As I said, you don't have to be friends with him just because you're both gay. If he isn't worthy of you, move on.

If you become friendlier with this co-worker, don't keep that side of you hidden. I know you've said "I know how they feel about gays" at work, but what you're really seeing is ignorance and mob mentality at play. I have yet to meet ANYBODY who said "After getting to know several homosexuals, I decided I didn't like them at all." Homophobes are always that way out of ignorance. They don't know any better. And the only cure for ignorance is education. That doesn't mean it has to be you that educates them, of course, but judging just from your posts here, I'd say this guy wouldn't take it badly at all.

LXN

Yes sir. Will do. I'm sure he'll be accepting. But I can't risk it at the moment.

I saw my coworker shirtless a couple of times yesterday. It still gets chilly in the morning, so he wears an undershirt. But as the day warms up, so does he and strips off the undershirt. He must be going shirtless while riding his motor bike because he's really tan.

And then just as the day was ending, he was changing into a new uniform. I walked in the back just as he was zipping up. And his shirt was unbuttoned. He has also recently lost some weight and damn, he looks so much hotter. Man, does he have some suckable nipples. And a lot hairier than I thought. As I walked by, he said "what's up?". My cock, tonight when I'm fantasizing about you

Maybe I'll catch him with his pants down soon.

Not likely, although I did get to see him shirtless and in a pair of basketball/workout shorts.

Sadly, my coworker is going to quit and move away. I'm a tad heartbroken about it. Yes, I found him extremely charming and attractive. But I also considered him a friend. I enjoyed talking to him. He was my age so I could relate to what ever he was going through. I can't say that about my other coworkers.

I'll miss him terribly and wish him well. He'll need all the luck, since trouble seems to find him.