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MIB
Radio talk show host and openly gay man Al Rantel: "Newsome should be arrested. Absolutely. We cannot have public officials elected to enforce the law turn around and break them....he is making a show of this."
HornFan
IMPEACH this Evil Doer! rolleyes.gif
JR in TX
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MIB:
Radio talk show host and openly gay man Al Rantel: \"Newsome should be arrested. Absolutely. We cannot have public officials elected to enforce the law turn around and break them....he is making a show of this.\"
Enforcing the law is not the only duty of a public official. Looking out for the welfare of his or her constituents, both the majority and minority, is another, more implicit one.
MIB
But which one is actually codified in the Law per the legislature's actions?
Jim Allen
Ah, MIB, totally missing the point as usual. This is California, not Chicago, Montana or Iowa. We do what we want out here. The rest of y'all just follow. Quit clutching your pearls about the rule of law or what's the standard under some tedious law elsewhere. We don't care out here for the most part. Newsome has done this to get Prop. 22 in to the higher courts, where it'll be smacked down. Brilliant move on his part.

[ February 16, 2004, 10:38 PM: Message edited by: Jim Allen ]
fielderschoice
Rather than being "anarchy", Mayor Newsom's actions are in support of California law, not in defiance of it. As an elected executive, Newsom is pledged to uphold the California Constitution, which prohibits unequal application of the law. The Constitution of California is the supreme law in the state, and Mayor Newsom is simply applying the logical extension of this principle, by refusing to enforce a "defense of marriage" law that is unconstitutional because it denies rights to a particular group of California citizens. The California Judiciary will ultimately decide the issue, as the Massachusetts Supreme Court has recently done.

It will be interesting to see what happens when the two anti-gay-marriage groups take their complaint to court this Tuesday. I have seen it speculated that they may not be able to make a case, because they are legally required to demonstrate that the marriage of same-gender couples has caused them harm. I can't imagine how they would be able to make any claim for being injured parties in such a lawsuit. (I'm pretty sure that the arguments that "it's against nature" or it's always been this way" or "because it puts our panties in a twist" will have little legal standing. This is just the sort of skewed reasoning that was attempted against equality for women and African-Americans, and which was proved invalid.)

By the way, the librarian in me persuades me to gently point out San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom spells his name without a final "e". Blessings...
fenwayguy
Forgive my "rest of y'all" naïveté, but what's the judicial history of Prop. 22? Hasn't its constitutionality been challenged before?
shore
Why do certain gays want to marry anyway? I for one have no interest in this hetero institution and think the gay community is missing an opportunity here in pushing for recognition of same-sex marriage. It doesn't bother me at all that people want to define marriage as a union between a man and a woman--let them have it. On the other hand, equal legal rights as couples I fully support, but let's just define it in the context of a union.

I think it hurts our cause to take on the attributes of the heterosexual marriage when in this age of extraordinary progess for gays we have a chance to define who we want to be. By persuing "marriage" we become more like "them" and less like the unique society that we are--a society that has the opportunity to define it's codes of practices (number of partners, type of relationships, abilities to change and define itself)--why do we need marriage?

I repeat, legal rights are seperate and can be defended without the mantel of marriage.
CPT_Doom
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I think it hurts our cause to take on the attributes of the heterosexual marriage when in this age of extraordinary progess for gays we have a chance to define who we want to be. By persuing \"marriage\" we become more like \"them\" and less like the unique society that we are--a society that has the opportunity to define it's codes of practices (number of partners, type of relationships, abilities to change and define itself)--why do we need marriage?

I repeat, legal rights are seperate and can be defended without the mantel of marriage.
Although I understand this type of thinking, and Lord knows there are a lot of gay people who espouse it, it is as narrow-minded as those anti-gay hypocrits who refuse to allow us to marry. It assumes that all gay people do, or should, want the same things.

There are many, many, deeply religious gay people who see themselves as no different from their straight counterparts in terms of lifestyle, desire for the future, family structure, etc. and they simply cannot be barred from the institution of marriage.

If there is an argument to be made for changing the nature of marriage (the number of people, etc. ) that is for another time and movement. Our society has marriage deeply imbedded in its soul, and we should have the same opportunity to embrace or reject it as straight people.
araanib
Americans, in my view and experience, have a wonderful temerity for breaking the rules when it really matters to us. Perhaps the handsome young mayor will be impeached or censured; pay the same penalty as Mr. Moore. That is sometimes what happens when you stand up for what you believe.

I know MIB and his ilk really want the world to be a black-and-white place where the law is the only arbiter of what is allowed and where the institutions in place for changing the law are sacrosanct. But this has never been the case in America. Never.

Sometimes elected officials betray their high oath to submit to the "will of the people." Many times posterity holds them in esteem for their leadership; other times it condemns them. Gay marriage is a cultural battle. Much of it will be fought within the bounds of the law and legal institutions, but some of it will be fought outside of that arena.

When you strip away all of the grandiose rhetoric about public officals betraying the voters and ruling by dictatorship and forcing social issues down people's throats, all you really have is a mayor saying to his constituency: "I will do everything I can to give you all the benefits of marriage." When an elected official starts preserving institutions and traditions and "chains of command" over his constituency, then there is no democracy. I know, I know ... what if he ruled by similar decree that gays should be rounded up and shot. Well, then I hope we would collectively stand up and say "f**k off." That's the way it's supposed to work, even in the austere world of American politics. We are SUPPOSED to get angry and yell and shout and vote and break the laws and challenge our leaders (wartime or no).

It would be real nice if we all just played by the rules and were patient about all this, but I'm sorry ... that's not the way it's ever going to work. Moore inspired millions of people with his act, and Newsome inspired millions too.

But I'm sure desegregation would have come along just as quickly if Rosa Parks had moved to the back of the bus like a good little colored girl and instead wrote a strongly worded letter to her senator.

If you are really that upset that Newsome broke the rules, the go to California and protest. Start a recall petition, muster troops of citizens to protest him, chain yourself to the doors of city hall so that he cannot get to his office to conduct city business. In lieu of that, you are just a whiny child screaming at the other children that they're no-good cheaters.
Lksimcoe
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Jim Allen:
Ah, MIB, totally missing the point as usual. This is California, not Chicago, Montana or Iowa. We do what we want out here. The rest of y'all just follow. Quit clutching your pearls about the rule of law or what's the standard under some tedious law elsewhere. We don't care out here for the most part. Newsome has done this to get Prop. 22 in to the higher courts, where it'll be smacked down. Brilliant move on his part.
The mental visual of MIB wearing pearls is TOO funny.

Do pearls really go with Leather?

MIB, fill us in!! Inquiring minds want to know
twin58
Whatever. Information elsewhere suggests that there will be a hearing on all this starting at 11 a.m. PST, which is a half-hour from now. Will it be on C-SPAN?
swimmer
CNN.com's Quick Vote question for the day is, "Should same sex couples be allowed to marry?" Right now it's 45/55 against. So, you know what to do.

Gay Marriage Poll
Jim Allen
Fielderschoice, d'oh! I keep adding that e to Newsom's name. Duly noted and thanks, I like to be correct about those sorts of things.

RSB, as far as memory (and a Google search) serves, no, Prop. 22 hasn't been tested in the higher CA courts before. That's one of Newsom's reasons for doing what he did, I think, to get it on the agenda.

Shore, what you wrote is totally early 70's Gay Liberation Front rhetoric (I'm not criticizing you for that, honest, just making an observation). The idea was that the Gay Lib movement would help transform American relationships in to a more fluid thing. I think it's safe to say that they failed miserably.

And as CPT wrote, it's simply a matter of equality; I'm with Shore, I'm not big on the idea of marriage, but some people are and that's why it's important. And as Joe in Philly has pointed out on other threads, civil unions currently would not be 100% equal to marriage because there's certain federal laws that require marriage for rights and benefits to be transferrable. Until all the laws everywhere are changed to accomodate civl unions language, marriage it is then.

Swimmer, thanks for the link.

[ February 17, 2004, 11:30 AM: Message edited by: Jim Allen ]
Jim at Outsports
For those of you who remember Eric "Coach Gumby" Anderson, wjo has written for us and was a speaker at our first convention: He and his partner got married in SF and the BBC did a story.
gamecock
Congrats to Eric "Coach Gumby" and Grant smile.gif ....thanks for the link and bringing their story to our attention, Jim....some more great stories and pics in that BBC column....I'm especially glad to see that these ceremonies in SF are receiving the attention from news media worldwide as they deserve, which in my view can only help our cause in the long run.
MIB
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Jim Allen:
Ah, MIB, totally missing the point as usual. This is California, not Chicago, Montana or Iowa. We do what we want out here. The rest of y'all just follow. Quit clutching your pearls about the rule of law or what's the standard under some tedious law elsewhere. We don't care out here for the most part. Newsome has done this to get Prop. 22 in to the higher courts, where it'll be smacked down. Brilliant move on his part.
Ah, I see. So if you're conservative, a Christian--basically anyone with whom JimAllen disagrees, like Roy Moore of Alabama--then such actions are illegal, a defiance of the law, and just plain wrong. But if you're in San Francisco and doing something with which JimAllen agrees, then it's acceptable.

Hypocrisy, thy name is JimAllen. rolleyes.gif
CPT_Doom
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Ah, I see. So if you're conservative, a Christian--basically anyone with whom JimAllen disagrees, like Roy Moore of Alabama--then such actions are illegal, a defiance of the law, and just plain wrong. But if you're in San Francisco and doing something with which JimAllen agrees, then it's acceptable.

Hypocrisy, thy name is JimAllen.
I really don't want to get into an argument, MIB, but wouldn't it have been more hypocritical for JimAllen to have screamed and wailed about the \"law-breaking\" that Newsom is doing. Even before I got on this thread the first time I could have predicted exactly how you and JimAllen would have reacted - IMHO neither of you is being hypocritical.

Personally, I acknowledge my own double standard in this case (not hypocrisy, just different thinking) and the Moore case, because I see real differences between them. MIB does not, and he is welcome to his opinion (but I am guessing that deep down even MIB is just as emotional when he sees the pictures of the couples being married in SF) - let's not let this turn into a personal battle.

For me, I really see a difference with upholding the Constitution over a simple legislative act (actually not even that - a bigoted act of the people of California) and defying both the federal Constitution and federal court precedents, as Moore did. Newsom's actions, however, are not something to be taken lightly, and are not something that legislators can simply do willy-nilly - defying the laws of the people must only be done when there are no more options, and Newsom has stated he felt that was where we were as a country. Is he just grandstanding? Who knows.

I think Anna Quindlen has it best in her Newsweek commentary:

Desecration? Dedication!

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Like the naturalized citizens who are expected to know more about America than those of us born here, gay couples are being held to a standard the denizens of Vegas chapels and divorce courts have never had to meet: to justify the simple human urge, so taken for granted by the rest of us, to fully and legally come together. Just as it's common to see an immigrant take the oath and then kiss the ground, the result of all this enforced soul-searching may well be a fervor that will honor an embattled institution. Gay people are being asked to form a more perfect union. In the process, perhaps they can teach us something that we casual citizens and spouses badly need to learn.

In this case, gay people are also expected to wait until the "consensus" of our neighbors is we "deserve" marriage - something that remarriage after divorce (legalized in the 1800s) and inter-racial marriage never had to wait for.
m1
In another thread, theodoresdaddy posted

http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/n...1506EST0635.DTL

judge delayed until at least Friday a ruling on whether to block San Francisco from issuing same-sex marriage licenses.

The ruling occurred during the first of two such hearings Tuesday. Another judge was scheduled to hear a similar case in the afternoon.

In the early hearing, San Francisco County Superior Court Judge Ronald Quidachay said he was not prepared to rule on a lawsuit filed by conservatives to block the marriages -- more than 2,300 of which have taken place since last Thursday.
Denver Fan
Current CNN.com poll

What is the bigger threat to the institution of Marriage?

Same-sex marriage- 31%
Divorce- 69%

Cast your voted everybody!!!!!!!! wink
Jim Allen
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Hypocrisy, thy name is JimAllen
Get my handle right. It's Jim[space]Allen. Jim Allen. OK, M.I.B.?

Sure, I'm a hypocrite on this issue in the manner you describe. Oddly enough, I sleep really well at night. But, as CPT hints at, it would be even MORE hypocritical for me to suddenly pretend that I care about legal mintuae in this instance. You see, unlike you MIB, I don't value ideological consistancy anywhere nearly as highly; you really are redolent of a Trotskyite. I don't sit here and examine an issue from every angle to see if it accords perfectly with my worldview. I'm absolutely clear: equal rights for GLBT's trump all, even if some of it clashes with my political views. I haven't looked in to the issue any deeper than reading news reports, but I think Newsom is on OK legal footing here, your hysterical cries of \"Anarchy!\" notwithstanding. I'm pretty sure Newsom knew what he was doing and got plenty of legal advice beforehand. Or maybe not, maybe he just went off half-cocked! So to speak smile.gif

If something helps \"my people\", that is, gays and lesbians, and in the meantime is a punch in the nose to right-wing Bible thumpers, then I'm the happiest little bunny in the whole wide world. It's the best of both worlds! I'm certainly not going to apologize for--or stop--writing my anti-religion views on this board.

I was drunk when I typed that screed about Roy Moore. I thought about going back and toning it down but I couldn't be bothered. I thought the decision was correct and, obviously, it was great to see a Bible-thumper get smacked down. As was mentioned earlier in this thread, probably an apple-and-oranges thing to compare the two cases. But, again, I don't care enough about the legal details to really bother making a detailed study. Whether the Angels are going to be OK at the shortstop position in the upcoming season is far more important to me.

Back to the topic, a good news/bad news day from the courts in San Francisco: Marriages \\"appear to be illegal\\" but judge won't stop 'em:
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A judge said San Francisco appears to be violating the law by issuing marriage licenses to gay and lesbian couples, but he declined Tuesday to order an immediate halt to the weddings. A conservative group had asked Judge James Warren to immediately stop the weddings and void the 2,464 same-sex marriages performed in the city since Thursday. Instead, Warren issued a nonbinding order urging the city to halt the weddings, and told city lawyers to return March 29 to explain their legal position.

\"We are extremely happy and gratified that a stay was not issued,\" City Attorney Dennis Herrerra said. Mayor Gavin Newsom said through a spokeswoman that the city would keep performing the marriages despite the judge's urging. \"We will continue to issue marriage licenses until the court rules we can no longer do so,\" spokeswoman Darlene Chiu said
A lot can happen between now and the 29th.

The poll that DenverFan posted hints at a strategy to take the heat off the gay marriage thing: point out that divorce is real and has far more impact, that's what the pro-marriage crowd should be worried about.

[ February 17, 2004, 08:29 PM: Message edited by: Jim Allen ]
gamecock
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Denver Fan
Current CNN.com poll
What is the bigger threat to the institution of Marriage?
Same-sex marriage- 31%
Divorce- 69%
Cast your vote everybody!!!!!!!! wink
OK, I cast my vote -- it's now running 68%/32% with just over 79,000 votes cast....who are these bigoted idiots who actually think that WE are somehow a bigger threat than divorcees!? eek! ....I'd love to see a demographic and geographical breakdown of these 32% of respondents -- then again, I'm sure most of us can figure that our without much difficulty. rolleyes.gif

I agree wholeheartedly with Jim Allen's immediate post above where he suggests using the content of this poll to support our cause....this has crossed my mind on several occasions lately and I've been surprised that no one (or at least no one that the media has publicized yet) has brought it up....it sure can't hurt and despite the fact that it seems blatantly obvious to many of us I'm sure there are millions of Americans who have never even stopped to think about comparing the two in relation to which one is the REAL threat to the sanctity of marriage in this country.

Keep casting your votes guys (and gals, too)! smile.gif

[ February 17, 2004, 09:31 PM: Message edited by: gamecock ]
jqueer
The bottom line for me is that Newsome is a political opportunist. That in no way invalidates the emotion and sincerity of those who came to the San Francisco City Hall to be wed. The joy and happiness this simple act is bringing to thousands of people is so precious and meaningful, I wish I could not undersand why anyone finds it offensive.
MIB
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Jim Allen:
Whether the Angels are going to be OK at the shortstop position in the upcoming season is far more important to me.
On that we agree, though it's not the Angels for me. Normally it'd be the White Sox, but I'm so fed up with their ownership and their GM that I could care less if they ever won another game.
JASooner
They've been giving out marriage licenses to gays in S.F. for almost a week now, and shocker of all shockers -- there is no anarchy on the streets! People aren't turning over and burning cars, nor are they looting stores, nor raping and pillaging. So much for that theory.

As for the supposed hypocrisy between Judge Roy Moore and Mayor Newsom: There is an important difference in that Moore was specifically ordered by a higher official to remove the 10C shrine. OTOH, the religious right have tried to get a similar order to cease & desist from two courts, but have so far not been succesful. Only if and when Newsom gets such an order, and defies it, will this case legally parallel the Moore case.
MIB
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JASooner:

As for the supposed hypocrisy between Judge Roy Moore and Mayor Newsom: There is an important difference in that Moore was specifically ordered by a higher official to remove the 10C shrine. OTOH, the religious right have tried to get a similar order to cease & desist from two courts, but have so far not been succesful. Only if and when Newsom gets such an order, and defies it, will this case legally parallel the Moore case.
Hardly. What does the Law say? Roy Moore defied the law, ignoring the prohibition of putting such a monument in a public building. He went ahead and did it anyway. Newsom ignored the law that marriage is only between a man and a woman. He defied the law and went ahead and did it anyway. He did not need a judge reminding him of this for him to be labeled a lawbreaker.

The two situations are the same. Both elected officials are wrong. Their intentions might be laudable, but their methods are illegal.
Allen
Eh, so what the law is wrong? Let them get married!! biggrin.gif

Always a bridesmaid ... *sigh* wink tongue.gif
TomFord
I like this--anon email to andrewsullivan.com:
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Moore got in trouble because he defied \"settled law.\" He knew when he placed the monument in my home state's Judicial Building that doing so was contrary to well-established law regarding the display of religious symbols in public buildings. In doing so, he treated the public space as his own private pulpit and violated his oath of office.

Public officials such as Newsom and Moore do not have the LEGAL DISCRETION to act as they have done in their respective cases. Moore ultimately was thrown out of office after he defied the Federal court's order, but he was only cited for contempt of court after he had already persistently violated his oath of office as a public official. And he was roundly condemned across this state and across the country for his actions long before the contempt order was issued by Judge Thompson. Again, if public officials have the privilege of being able to disregard the CLEAR mandates of the law in executing the law, then there is no law at all, just arbitrariness.

Civil disobedience relies upon private citizens forcing public officials to enforce unfair or immoral laws, even when the officials in good conscience would prefer not to do so. By doing this, it points out the immorality or unfairness of the laws in question.

The proper way for Newsom and others to have made a symbolic showing on this issue while conforming to the law would have been for thousands of gay/lesbian applicants to have appeared day after day at his office seeking marriage licenses, and for him to have publicly and reluctantly denied their individual requests. This would have three immediate results. First, enormous public relations boost for the movement in question. Second, would have created grounds for suit in state courts under the state constitution's equal protection clause, which is the proper forum for deciding if the statute in question is unconstitutional. Third, it would create an enormous disruption of other governmental business, thereby making the protest have a practical impact.
jqueer
In a civil society, there must be opportunities for elected and appointed govenment officials to question and challenge the legality, morality and constitutionality of laws they are called upon to enforce. Both Mayor Newsom and former Justice Moore availed themselves of that process. Moore, unfortunately, didn't know when to throw in the towel. If he had walked away from that monument at any time up to and including after the Supreme Court had ruled, he would have retained his seat and lodged a moral victory. Newsom has stated publicly that if told to do so by a court, any court, he would immediately cease giving out same sex marriage liscences and use the court process to challenge the constitutionality of the law he was violating. Until Newsom is proven a liar, one has to take him at his word. The two cases are entirely different. Calling for the arrest and/or impeachment of Newsom at this point because Moore lost his job over something that only on the surface looks similar is hypocritical. When the California Supreme Court rules that prop 22 is constitutional and that the issuance of gender nuetral marriage liscences is illegal, and Newsom insists on continuing to issue such liscenses, then calls for his job would be reasonable. His arrest, on the other hand, would be far beyond anything Moore suffered in what I consider to be a far more aggregious case of abuse of public office and trust.
CPT_Doom
I just keep thinking about the abolitionists (private citizens and public figures) who hid out slaves in violation of the law, or the Germans who refused to cooperate with the law, or the neighbors of the Japanese concentration camp inmates who tended their houses and maintained their businesses for them so they would have something to go back to after the law released them. There are times when the moral thing to do is not the legal thing to do.

The only difference between Newsom's actions and the ones I just described is the extent of the discrimination and hatred they were fighting. We are far better off (now) as gay people than any of the groups above, but the basics are the same. Illegal laws must be fought, and quite frankly this was Newsom's only weapon. Gay people won't apply for marriage licenses because we know we'll be refused - that protest was effectively rendered moot in the 70s.

I also find it so ironic that the "pro-family" movement that is among the loudest calling for Newsom's arrest was the same group of people that covered up the fact that "ex-gay" spokesman Michael Johnson was in fact still having sex with men, while leading an "ex-gay" ministry, and was having unprotected sex without informing his partners - a criminal act in his state. Not only did they cover up the crime, when it was finally made public, they hid him at a residential treatment facility so no one could find him. If we are going to go after lawlessness, let's start with crimes that actually have victims.

[ February 18, 2004, 12:53 PM: Message edited by: CPT_Doom ]
Joe in Philly
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MIB:
Roy Moore defied the law, ignoring the prohibition of putting such a monument in a public building. He went ahead and did it anyway. Newsom ignored the law that marriage is only between a man and a woman. He defied the law and went ahead and did it anyway. He did not need a judge reminding him of this for him to be labeled a lawbreaker.
And Roy Moore DID? He was a f**king judge himself! He, more than anyone else, should have known that he was breaking the law.

You can say it until you're blue in the face, but until Newsom has been ordered to stop and exhausted EVERY appeal, the situations are NOT the same.
fenwayguy
The openly gay congressman from Massachusetts, Barney Frank, agrees with MIB.

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Frank said San Francisco's decision to promote civil disobedience and allow gay and lesbian couples to obtain marriage licenses promotes the notion that unpopular laws can be broken or ignored.

\"We have something real to defend here,\" Frank said of the (Massachusetts Supreme Cout) decision and efforts to stop the federal constitutional amendment. \"When you're in a real struggle, San Francisco making a symbolic point becomes a diversion.\"
It was a hell of a symbolic point, though, and it spread joy throughout the nation. I get Frank's argument, but I support Newsom's actions.
Jim Allen
Pretty amazing [url="http://www.sfgate.com/columnists/morford/"]
column by Mark Morford of the SFGate[/url] on the happenings in SF:
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And no question became so clear, so obvious, as the one being asked by same-sex-marriage advocates around the world: What, really, is so wrong about this? What is the horrible threat about two adults who love each other so intensely, so purely, that they're willing to commit to a lifetime of being together and sleeping together and arguing over who controls the remote? And what government body dares to claim a right to legislate against it?

It is a question no group, no homophobic senator, no piece of antigay legislation, no BushCo stump speech, no Bible-humping pastor has been able to answer with any clarity or conviction.

They can only mumble about immorality and quote some vague Scripture about sodomy that makes them all tingly, as wary biblical scholars all over the world roll their eyes and point to a thousand proofs that demonstrate, over and over again, how the Bible is basically a reinterpreted regurgitated piece of classic patriarchal misogynistic mythmaking that says exactly what the church rewrote it to say.
Woah. I *heart* Mark. But I think he articulates something that I think is true but couldn't quite put my finger on:
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But I might have part of an answer. From what I can glean from some of my hate mail and the general conservative outcry, here is what the homophobes fear about same-sex marriage: bestiality.

That is, they are utterly terrified that same-sex marriage is a slippery slope of permissive debauchery that will lead to the utter breakdown of social rules and sexual mores, to people being allowed to marry their dogs, or their own dead grandmothers, or chairs, or three hairy men from Miami Beach.

In short, to the neocon Right, a nation that allows gays to marry is a nation with no boundaries and no condoms and where all sorts of illicit disgusting behaviors will soon be legal and be forced upon them, a horrific tribal wasteland full of leeches and flying bugs and scary sex acts they only read about in chat rooms and their beloved \"Left Behind\" series of cute apocalypse-porn books.

You know, just like how giving blacks the right to own their own land meant we had to give the same rights to house plants and power tools, or how granting women the right to vote meant it was a slippery slope until we gave suffrage to feral cats and sea slugs and rusty hubcaps.
Hee...\"three hairy men from Miami\". Mmmmmm.....hairy men.........

Of course, Mark can't help himself and gilds the lily a bit at the end:
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But S.F. has taken the lead, has sounded the battle cry, has defined itself anew. And for that, more than any other of its wonders, I am incredibly proud that I live in San Francisco, the best city in the whole goddamn world -- gay, straight or anywhere in between.
[JA grinds molars to dust at SF exceptionalism]

Good stuff though on the whole, Mark.

[ February 18, 2004, 11:00 PM: Message edited by: Jim Allen ]
jqueer
There are a number of things that gay marriage can lead to, necrophelia, bestiality, incest and polygamy.

The first two are easy. You can't have sex with/marry a corpse or a dog because corpse and dogs cannot consent to sex/marriage and are therefore completely unlike consenting adults of the same sex sharing a bed/remote.

The third can be tricky, but my mother is a shrink, and the long term problems, both physical and psychic, that come from sleeping with family members seem to make societal acceptance of such relationships unlikely. This, of course, assumes that we are discussing adult family members, because children are much like corpses and animals in their lack of ability to consent.

The last is the most difficult. I give up, I can't explain why bigamy, polygamy and group marriage/sex is in any way more damaging to society and the institution of marriage than is divorce and blatant infidelity, much less gay marriage.

So the only legitimate argument against gay marriage is that it might lead to the condoning of polygamy, but in order for that to be an argument, you have to first prove why polygamy is, in fact, bad for society. Didn't seem to bother those in the Bible. And once you've proven polygamy is bad for society, unless you can find some reason it is like gay marriage in that respect, you still don't have an argument against gay marriage.
fielderschoice
And here is the article that San Francisco Chronicle columnist Mark Morford wrote February 13th, just as the gay marriages were beginning to take place at City Hall. He entitled it:

What Are You So Afraid Of?
RGMike
I couldn't decide which thread to append this to (it's been mentioned in a thread about Chicago that pertains to a different issue). But Chicago mayor Daley said he's fine with the idea of same-sex marriage and would love for his city to do what SF has done. Best quote:

"Marriage has been undermined by divorce, so don't tell me about marriage," he said. "Don't blame the gay and lesbian, transgender and transsexual community."

here's the whole story:
Windy City Weddings?
CPT_Doom
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So the only legitimate argument against gay marriage is that it might lead to the condoning of polygamy, but in order for that to be an argument, you have to first prove why polygamy is, in fact, bad for society. Didn't seem to bother those in the Bible. And once you've proven polygamy is bad for society, unless you can find some reason it is like gay marriage in that respect, you still don't have an argument against gay marriage.
There are three good ones I can think of:

1) The way polygamy is practiced, for instance by the break-off Mormon groups in Utah, victimizes women, who are often forced into plural marriages at very young ages.

2) From a contractual standpoint, anything more than a two-person marriage is going to become a legal quagmire. How do you divide property in the event of a divorce? What if only one/three wants the divorce?

3) Polygamy is a change to the contractual basis of marriage. Refusing to recognize same-sex marriage is discrimination within the current contractual basis of two people. And because gay people represent a distinct class, and cannot avail ourselves of the current definition of marriage, we are being excluded from entering a contract at all. No on is arguing that there is a class of people who are only attracted to multi-person relationships.

But most importantly, any arguments for/against any of the things jqueer mentions are irrelevant to the argument for/against gay marriage. The government cannot refuse to grant rights to a group of people simply because it will make it harder to stop other "bad" things from happening. The government has to deal with those other "bad" things indepdently of the discussion of our rights.
GatorJamie
Add to CPT_Doom's points:

#4. Most plural families receive public assistance. Areas with high concentrations of plural families (southern Utah and northwestern Arizona) have exponentially higher public-assistance burdens per capita than anywhere else in the U.S.
jqueer
first off, I wasn't putting these arguments forward as my own, merely reflecting what I've heard from the right on the issue. I agree with CPT_Doom, and further, the right is using slippery slope arguments, which any elementary logic student can tell you is a fallacy.

Having said all that, I'm still somehow compelled to support my original post. As for CPT_Doom's #1, that obviously is covered in my first assertion that those incapable of informed, uncoerced consent cannot marry, regardless of the situation. As for the contractual argument, I'm not entirely sure that's a compelling brief. Contracts can be easilly standardized to protect the average citizen in any sort of marriage arrangemnt, and marriages that include children and property are already dreadfully complicated to disolve. Perhaps I'm too much of a Heinlein fan, but I like the idea of group, S, line, etc. marriages. It meshes with the vision of the future with which I grew up. But then again, anyone who starts reading Heinlein with _Job_ at around nine is going to have a f**ked world view to begin with.
MIB
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Joe in Philly:
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MIB:
Roy Moore defied the law, ignoring the prohibition of putting such a monument in a public building. He went ahead and did it anyway. Newsom ignored the law that marriage is only between a man and a woman. He defied the law and went ahead and did it anyway. He did not need a judge reminding him of this for him to be labeled a lawbreaker.
And Roy Moore DID? He was a f**king judge himself! He, more than anyone else, should have known that he was breaking the law.

You can say it until you're blue in the face, but until Newsom has been ordered to stop and exhausted EVERY appeal, the situations are NOT the same.
Of course Moore should have known. He was a fool for what he did.

And of course the cases are the same. Only hypocrites would claim otherwise. As I've said before, I don't expect a hypocrite to admit this. They'll all make flimsy excuses of "You can say it until you're blue in the face, but until Newsom has been ordered to stop and exhausted EVERY appeal, the situations are NOT the same," among other foolish comments.
Joe in Philly
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MIB:
And of course the cases are the same. Only hypocrites would claim otherwise.
The cases are NOT the same. Only a stuck-up, self-righteous, condescending right-wing nut would claim otherwise. I wouldn't expect one to admit this because they all know how perfect they are, and how the rest of us poor pathetic slobs are unworthy to breathe the same air.

[ February 19, 2004, 10:58 PM: Message edited by: Joe in Philly ]
jqueer
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MIB:
And of course the cases are the same. Only hypocrites would claim otherwise.
I'm too damn lazy to go back through all the posts and do the research, but if you're one of the people who have called for the impeachment and/or arrest of Mayor Newsom on the notion that his action is the same as what got former Justice Moore removed from the bench, then you are equating two entirely different things. If you're merely saying that like Moore, Newsom is taking the wrong path to social change, then you have an opinion I disagree with, but respect, unlike that bastion of conservatism, Barney Frank, who actually agrees with you.
Jim Allen
Joe in Philly [cyber-hug]
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He did not need a judge reminding him of this for him to be labeled a lawbreaker
And what are you referring to? Prop. 22 or the State Constitution? As Newsom--ha! I typed that pesky \"e\" again--has stated, he was sworn to uphold the State Constitution and that is the basis of his action, that the State Constitution takes priority over a particular law.

And this isn't new, either, as this article from 1997 shows.
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Californians approved Proposition 209 a year ago, voting to ban the use of race or gender in state hiring, contracting or school admissions. Both sides of the debate are now saying the issue is headed back to court, and leaders are among those choosing sides.

Gov. Pete Wilson, Proposition 209's chief proponent, says he will sue California communities that do not abide by it. But San Francisco Mayor Willie Brown says he plans to keep affirmative action in his city. \"There will be no change in the program in San Francisco,\" he said.

Not if he can help it, says Glynn Custred, co-author of Proposition 209. \"Willie Brown, like Richard Nixon, thinks he's above the law. Willie Brown, like his soul mate George Wallace, is going to stand in the way of civil rights, and we are going to bring every legal measure we can against the Willie Browns,\" he said.
"Willie Brown, like his soul-mate George Wallace"?!?! What's that rumbling sound I'm hearing? An earthquake? No! It's George Wallace spinning in his grave. Lunatic right wingers.

Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

I love California.
Jim Allen
And this hits just keep on comin'. Add New Mexico to the list of rebels
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A county clerk in New Mexico says it has nothing to do with \"politics or morals.\"

Sandoval County Clerk Victoria Dunlap says the county plans to issue marriage licenses for same-sex couples.

She made the decision after asking for an opinion from the county attorney, who said New Mexico law isn't clear on the issue. He also says refusing to issue marriage licenses to gay couples could open the county to legal action.

State law defines marriage as a civil contract between contracting parties. It doesn't mention gender.
And on the San Francisco front, the state gets sued by San Francisco: (sorry, this is the only story I could find, it's behind an LA Times registration-only firewall, so I'll just paste the whole thing here)
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San Francisco courts will resume wrestling with the question of same-sex marriages today, a day after the city filed a lawsuit against the state, challenging laws that bar gay unions on the grounds that they violate language in the California Constitution that forbids discrimination.

Mayor Gavin Newsom ordered his staff last week to remove references to \"bride\" and \"groom\" from marriage licenses and to begin performing same-sex ceremonies, arguing that to do otherwise would violate the Constitution's equal protection clause.

In filing Thursday's lawsuit, city officials hope to focus the legal dispute on the constitutional issue of discrimination. Today, two judges are scheduled to consider lawsuits from two groups seeking to halt the marriages. The city is expected to ask this morning to have those cases consolidated into one, to be heard by Superior Court Judge James L. Warren.

If the cases are not brought together before Warren, San Francisco Superior Court Judge Ronald Evan Quidachay will be faced with the question at a 2 p.m. hearing on whether to issue an immediate order to stop the city from issuing same-sex marriage licenses.

Opponents of the city's decision to issue marriage licenses to gay couples have tried to limit the case to a narrower issue: whether a mayor has the right to break state law. \"It goes to the heart of the question: Do we or do we not have the right to do this?\" Newsom said at a news conference. \"It will force the debate and discussion. It was a good move.\"

Asked why the city hadn't pursued a lawsuit against the state to clarify the legal question before issuing the licenses, Newsom was frank: \"We put a human face and a real story behind the theory of discrimination,\" he said.

The legal filing instantly upped the ante in the city's high-profile act of civil disobedience, requiring California Atty. Gen. Bill Lockyer to take a stand. Although Newsom's staff said Lockyer had been advised in advance of the city's plan to begin marrying gays and lesbians, the state's top law enforcement officer had remained silent on the issue, saying he had not been asked to weigh in.

On Thursday he issued a statement saying that he did \"not personally support policies that give lesser legal rights and responsibilities to committed same-sex couples than those provided to heterosexual couples.\" \"But the people of California have spoken,\" Lockyer said. \"State law prohibits the recognition of same-sex marriages. It is the duty of my office to defend that law against this challenge … and allow the courts to determine whether the city has acted illegally.\"

The state Family Code defines marriage as between \"a man and a woman.\" Furthermore, four years ago voters approved Proposition 22, a ballot measure that amended the Family Code to state that no same-sex marriages granted out of state would be honored in California and that only marriages \"between a man and a woman\" were valid.

Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger reiterated his objection to same-sex marriages and promised that Lockyer would defend state law. \"The people of California spoke on the issue of same-sex marriage when Prop. 22 was overwhelmingly passed in 2000,\" the governor said in a statement.

Officials in the state Department of Health Services have said they would not accept the altered marriage license forms, but San Francisco officials said it remained unclear whether that would have a bearing on the forms' validity.

Representatives of the Campaign for California Families are scheduled to appear before Quidachay this afternoon to seek an immediate halt to the marriages. The Proposition 22 Legal Defense and Education Fund, represented by the Arizona-based Alliance Defense Fund, appeared Tuesday before Warren with a similar request, which was denied.

The group and the city were ordered back to court March 29 to argue the merits of the case, giving San Francisco a free hand to continue with the marriages. Already, nearly 3,000 couples have wed in the city. University of Santa Clara law professor Gerald Uelmen, an expert on the California Constitution, said the lawsuit would help the city in its effort to have a court rule on the equal protection issue.

\"It gets them closer,\" he said. \"Now the issue of the underlying constitutionality of the state law is directly presented. It certainly puts them in a better posture than defending a claim that they have impinged on state authority.\"
And the wingnuts are already whining about the So-Called Liberal Media's "heinous" treatment of Roy Moore while they let San Francisco off the hook, but I can't be arsed to link to them.
MIB
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jqueer:
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MIB:
And of course the cases are the same. Only hypocrites would claim otherwise.
I'm too damn lazy to go back through all the posts and do the research, but if you're one of the people who have called for the impeachment and/or arrest of Mayor Newsom on the notion that his action is the same as what got former Justice Moore removed from the bench, then you are equating two entirely different things. If you're merely saying that like Moore, Newsom is taking the wrong path to social change, then you have an opinion I disagree with, but respect, unlike that bastion of conservatism, Barney Frank, who actually agrees with you.
Personally, no, I do not believe Moore or Newsom should be arrested. I did, however, report that others believe this.
MIB
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Joe in Philly:
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MIB:
And of course the cases are the same. Only hypocrites would claim otherwise.
The cases are NOT the same. Only a stuck-up, self-righteous, condescending right-wing nut would claim otherwise. I wouldn't expect one to admit this because they all know how perfect they are, and how the rest of us poor pathetic slobs are unworthy to breathe the same air.
Well, as I explained, only hypocrites would continue to say this. But what else would one expect from someone making excuses for their kind's actions but blasting the opposing side when it does the same thing? It's called making excuses; it's called hypocrisy. Nothing more, nothing less, one's desire to see the truth notwithstanding.
MIB
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Jim Allen:
And what are you referring to? Prop. 22 or the State Constitution? As Newsom--ha! I typed that pesky \"e\" again--has stated, he was sworn to uphold the State Constitution and that is the basis of his action, that the State Constitution takes priority over a particular law.
A mayor, like a governor, is an elected executive official. As such, it is his constitutional duty to uphold and execute the law. He is not given the right to defy the law. Even if he disagrees with the law, he is legally obliged to follow it. Period.

If Newsom doesn't like it, he should resign his position and then choose to fight it. An executive cannot sue his legislature to disobey a law.

[ February 20, 2004, 01:20 PM: Message edited by: MIB ]
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A mayor, like a governor, is an elected executive official. As such, it is his constitutional duty to uphold and execute the law. He is not given the right to defy the law. Even if he disagrees with the law, he is legally obliged to follow it. Period.

If Newsom doesn't like it, he should resign his position and then choose to fight it. An executive cannot sue his legislature to disobey a law.
So all those Nazis who were just "following orders" should have been let go and not forced to take responsibility for their actions?

Yes, I am using hyperbole here, but clearly MIB, even you must admit there is a time when anyone, elected official or not, should not follow a law that is clearly unConstitutional. Again, there is a distinction here between Moore and Newsom, although you refuse to acknowledge it. Newsom has clearly stated he is doing his sworn duty to uphold the Constitution of the State of California - and that means disregarding a law that clearly violates the Constitution.

If only some mayor in California had had Newsom's guts when the Japanese were being rounded up - perhaps one of the blackest stains on our republic would not have happened, or would have been stymied at least.

Truth be told, I think Newsom is suddenly dealing with something much larger than he anticipated. I have to believe he fully expected to have the courts shut down the marriage market last Friday, but events have overtaken him.

Edited to add: And another thing - it is currently illegal in Massachusetts to celebrate Christmas - should all the elected officials who routinely violate this law - on the books since the early 1600's - be arrested?

[ February 20, 2004, 01:55 PM: Message edited by: CPT_Doom ]
JASooner
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CPT_Doom
Yes, I am using hyperbole here, but clearly MIB, even you must admit there is a time when anyone, elected official or not, should not follow a law that is clearly unConstitutional. Again, there is a distinction here between Moore and Newsom, although you refuse to acknowledge it. Newsom has clearly stated he is doing his sworn duty to uphold the Constitution of the State of California - and that means disregarding a law that clearly violates the Constitution.
Moore also claimed he was violating a law that conflicted with the Constitution. However, and this is a very important difference, cases very similar to Moore's case had been heard on multiple occasions, and such displays had been found unconstiutional. Moore knew exactly what he was doing, and his actions were purely a ploy to try to draw attention to (himself and) the supposed "judicial activism".

OTOH, the federal, and supreme courts have NOT ruled whether DOMA-type laws (incl. Prop 22) conflict with the US Constitution, and apparently, the California courts have not ruled whether Prop. 22 is valid under the state's Constiution. Despite the stubborness of a few to consider it, there's a key distinction when a law has been violated that has already been found to be constiutional, compared to a law that is being violated whose constiutionality is still unchallenged.

So, to review...
Moore's case:
  • Violating a law he said was inconsistent with Constiutional protections
  • That law had already been found to be Constiutional
  • Similar cases had already been decided against the religous displays

Newsom's case:
  • Also violating a law he says is inconsistent with Constitutional protections
  • This law has NOT yet been Constitutionally challenged
  • Only one similar cases has already been decided from a Constitutional standpoint - in favor of gay marriage (Massuchussetts)

It's a perfectly reasonable position that Newsom's civil disobedience is not a good idea, and that the law should have been challenged by individual couples in the courts, a la Massachussetts. However, to say Moore's and Newsom's cases are identical is grossly simplistic.
HornFan
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So, to review...
Moore's case:

Violating a law he said was inconsistent with Constiutional protections
That law had already been found to be Constiutional
Similar cases had already been decided against the religous displays

Newsom's case:

Also violating a law he says is inconsistent with Constitutional protections
This law has NOT yet been Constitutionally challenged
Only one similar cases has already been decided from a Constitutional standpoint - in favor of gay marriage (Massuchussetts)
Oh my God, please don't confuse MIB with the facts! rolleyes.gif

Disagreeing with MIB = "Hypocrisy" rolleyes.gif rolleyes.gif rolleyes.gif
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