I surprised my boyfriend with tickets to see Mezzo-Soprano, "Frederica von Stade" perform w/the SF Boys Chorus over the weekend and she was absolutely amazing!

My boyfriend and I have lots in common and enjoy many events together: symphony, opera, theatre, movies, etc.. but when it comes to sports, I am on my own.

He hates sports and thinks it is a useless waste of time. He's never ever been to a game with me. He showed mild interest during the A's 20-game win streak only b/c I was in a state of frenzy but refused to go to any of the games. (why do I feel like I'm writing to Dear Abbey)

Help me out here guys, should I press him to do more of the things I like, such as attending a baseball or basketball game?

How many sports guys out there are in similar situations with your boyfriend and/or partner and how have you handled it?

Dump him.
Okay, maybe that's extreme, but if he can't put forth the effort to share something this important to you, then he's being selfish. I agree that in a relationship, each individual needs to have something that is his own, and each needs to retain his individuality. But it sounds like you really want him to enjoy sports with you, and he's just not to be bothered.

Let's start with an important point that (for some reason) coupled people tend to forget: you are not joined at the hip & are allowed to have separate interests!!! That being said, Kyle, my beau ideal for 20 years, was not a sports fan at all but was a fan of spectacle. Thus, when a sports event had some spectacle attached (the Olympics, Super Bowl, Stanley Cup championships, the NCAA tourney...) I could nudge him into watching part of a game as part of the inherent color & lights he loved. Doing this--marveling at his reactions--also enhanced my enjoyment of the game. A good time was had by all.

~Adam

Are there things he likes that he insists you participate in as well? If not, you shouldn't insist he go to a game with you...except if it's a gay-oriented event such as the Phillies' gay days the last couple of years. Then he should go with you as a political act or show of solidarity or something. wink

When I had a boyfriend, he didn't like sports but he still went to a lot of games with me for a few years.

I really want my next boyfriend to have more interest in sports.

For that matter, I really want my next boyfriend. eek! wink

I think it depends on his reason for not going. If he is just not being supportive thats one thing but if he had really bad expreriences in gym class and can't stand the jocks or something like that it may be understandable. If he's just being a selfish little bugger time to evaluate the relationship.

Been there, my friend. Here's a column I wrote about it a couple years ago:

Seeking Jock for Boyfriend

My bf now doesn't care for sports, but he is SOOOO supportive of my love of sports. It's a great thing.

i haven't met any gay gay here in NY who's into sports.

opera, broadway, etc, but sports? damn!

JIP, i'm surprised you don't have a boyfriend. you're way cute.

Thanks. Tell your friends! wink

Good point JIP.
I guess I should extend an invite for the next gay day game and if he says no, then I’ll dump him! :-)

Speaking of gay days, I don't think we have one in Oakland. I'll have to inquire at the next Fan Fest.
I'm pretty sure the Giants should have one, if not, they usually have an Aids awareness day game and play YMCA over the loud speaker... <lol>

Men, Men, Men. What is up with y'all? You actually let your partners get control of the remote? What were you thinking? The remote is YOURS and YOURS alone. They get control of the remote and the next thing you know the TV is on QVC.

Well, fortunately, my partner is pretty open to the sports thing. Admittedly, however, I could give a rat's ass about the NBA and with Auburn as my Alma Mater, I might as well not care about college hoops (go Swimmers!). He enjoys watching baseball more than I do so it works well.

I'm just a lucky guy in that he's very easy going on what I watch is very supportive of all things football. However, we are watching a lot of QVC lately.

My partner and I have an unstated agreement...we give and take. I tolerate him being a Star Trek freak, and he puts up with my fanaticism for watching sports (even the boring ones like golf).

Honestly, I don't understand why this is that big of a deal. Some people don't like sports and that's okay

My boy hates sports. When there's a tennis match or a baseball game on that I want to watch, he doesn't expect me not to watch anymore than I would expect him to sit through something he doesn't enjoy. He goes shopping or for a walk or whatever and then we hook up later. Absence makes the heart grow fonder!!

So, how much Diamonique have you purchased?? wink

~Adam

Adam, it's more like a train wreck that you can't stop watching. His family has been in the retail business since 1942 and it mezmerizes him the stuff and quantities that people will buy.

No diamonique yet, but I do think the Moissanite caught his fancy.

wink

When his Lardship wants the remote, I tell him that it's an awesome power, and he's not ready for it, and then change the channel to something I like.

We both like sports, but different ones. He loves to watch golf on TV, and tennnis (ker-blam in my books). He likes to watch figure skating,.

I tolerate figure skating (men and pairs only. Women and ice dancing NO). He tolerates my watching world cup skiing, and the amazing race.

BUT, what will get him buried in the back yard is his LOVE of GSN (Game Show Network). I mean, if I hated the freakin'show 35 years ago, why in god's name would I want to watch the same f**kING show now.

Dear Lksimcoe,

I guess your recinding His Lordship's invitation for tea and crumpets!

With sadness,

Brett Somers