I know we have had this thread before but I believe it has been a while. Just wondering how long you have been together. My problem is that I don't know many couples that stick it out and those that do don't seem that happy. Just curious!

Thanks.

[ January 13, 2005, 10:02 AM: Message edited by: Cards_Fan ]

Seven years this summer....and the only itch I got is to spend more time with him! wink

13 years and happier now than in the beginning.

This past November was 2 years since I started dating my better half...he and I got an apartment together in October, and we now have our first child (a cute Boston Terrier puppy).

Together 3 years (next week), married 6 months.

16 or 17 years, depending upon how we date it. It does get better the more mature we become.

2 years in april

Come this June, I will have known and been in love with my husbear for ten years.

Who says radical queers like me can't find and keep a terrific boyfriend?

A decade together and we still love each madly!

It will be 8 years next month. Things have gotten better and better as the years progress. I am still amazed at how much he surprises me with new things I learn about him on a day to day basis.

I feel extremely fortunate to have found the love of my life so early on in my life. I also feel very blessed to have both of our families so accepting and to be such an integral part of our day to day life.

Mike

Just over two years since my partner & I first met. We moved in together 5 months ago - the first time I've lived with any boyfriend. Our relationship is most definitely still on the upswing.

We will be celebrating 15 incredibly wonderful years on February 10. Life with my man, baby, lover boy, honey love just get's better as time goes on. (I know, I'm sick! he loves the names though, wonders what I'm going to come up with next)

Geez, this thread makes my relationship feel as long lasting as a Britney Spears marriage.

Talk to me in a few years I guess, I am not letting this guy go....... wink

we have been together for 19 years, 4 cars, 6 houses, 7 jobs, and 4 states.

It will be 12 years in April. And all you people who say it just gets better and better... Gag me with a spoon! wink

I'm kidding, really. It does get better. The longer we're together, the good times get better. We're happier now to spend our time together, just the two of us, whether traveling on vacation or curling up on the sofa. We used to always socialize and even took our vacations with others. On the other hand, now that we're spending more time in just the company of each other, when we do have a conflict or argument it seems to be more intense and take more of an emotional toll. But we're committed (or we should be committed ), and sticking it out pays off big time.

Some couples say the secret to a long relationship is to never go to bed angry. We have not always followed that advise; sometimes we do go to bed angry. But we've never kicked each other out of bed, never stormed off to sleep on the couch or in the guest room, and by morning we're cuddling and kissing and have forgotten whatever it was we were arguing about.

Most of the gay couples we know here out in suburbia have been together anywhere from 5 to 20+ years, and have the same or better success rate in staying together as straight couples.

yeah, such longetivity in these relationships, seems better than hetero ones. I have been with my partner, sweetie, for five years and a few months. He surprised me last Sept for our fifth anniversary with a long weekend in Quebec City. This year for Valentines we're taking a week in Florence. It simply gets better if you're willing to do the work.

My husband and I have been together 24 years. It will 25 years on September 7, 2005, and to celebrate we are going on a tranatlantic crossing on the Queen Mary 2, 1 week in London, then 1 week with relatives in the North East (Durham), then fly back.

And yes, it does get better. There are times I am VERY tempted to bury him in the back yard, but all in all, I wouldn't trade him for anyone, (okay, I'd lend him for a night with either ITJock or Copman).

22 years+ now. Can't even imagine living with anyone else (or living with anyone else that would put up with my shit).

Hey guys. I'm glad to see that many of you have been in some very lasting relationships.

I hope someday it will happen to me. Thanks for posting.

That is SO true. Although when you do a list of who has the most "shit" to deal with, I'm sure that you deal with a LOT more than your husband.

At least that's my excuse. :-)

26 years in February and we're still in love. I'm a lucky guy.

Ditto illini's comment.

I'm with Tom and Illini, my boyfriend and I haven't even hit the 1 year mark yet (3/5/05) but we just bought a house together, so hopefully we can make it as long as many of you out there!

A transatlantic crossing? You Bithc

I'm with all of y'all. He'll have to kill me because no one else will put up with my shit. We're the same in that we spend most of our time with each other now. I run in the mornings and that is my time away and he drives an hour or so commute each day (no traffic, just driving) and that is his time. He's the love of my life.

My man Dennis and I have been together 25 years this Septebmer 1st (got you beat by a few days Lksimcoe). Met in the suburbs of Detroit and moved to San Francisco and have never been happier. His son used to spend summers with us when he was in high school and ended up moving here as well. It really does get better and better...

UTampaSpar--I wish you all the best luck man. I can't imagine buying a house with someone I've known for less than a year. But crazier things have happened that's for sure.

Funny thing, I can't really think of any shit I have to put up with in our relationship. I guess maybe the distance, as we are living/working in different states right now, but nothing really worth calling shit; our lives are simply what they are, no way around it, just get through it.

SheaBoy and I are getting married on June 26. That's two days short of the fourth anniversary of our first date--a date that happened almost two years after we first met. And I just keep falling more and more in love with him as time goes by.

13 years & going strong

Me and mine have been together for about 3 and half years now, living together for 1 year and I'm trying to talk him into adopting. We met right after 9/11 when we ended up having to work together at the job directly because of 9/11. My last relationship lasted 10 years but it just wasn't going anywhere after about the 4th. This one is forever I have no doubt. Can't wait to have kids together.

The 4th of July will mark our 4th anniversary together. He's like no man I've ever dated, let alone ever met.
He's quite the eccentric and that could be an understatment. Has anyone seen the Aviator? Well, we saw it last wkend and on several scenes, I couldn't help but turn my head towards him and grin.
I'm thinking, "good god!, I'm dating a Howard Hughes clone."

It will be 20 years in April. My story pretty much matches Maxallen's comments.

We've survived the loss of two dogs and a cat (two out of three to old age).

We love doing stuff together just the two of us (traveling, eating out, movies etc.) when in the past we spent more time with other couples. I guess the longer you are with someone, the more comfortable you are just being a couple.

Our dearest friends live in Nashville, so we do like to travel with them in order to see them more often, but we only have so much vacation time. :mad:

Four years today. Had a very nice dinner at home.

Eight years in May... for our anniversary last year, we went to the Outsports Convention in Philly, it might be difficult to do better this year.

12 years, and we're getting married next month in Toronto.

Amost 6 yrs - Long distance - but we talk on our cell phones several times a day & fly to be together as often as possible. Treats me like a king.

[ January 13, 2005, 07:55 PM: Message edited by: copman ]

as a newly out gay male, i am so touched hearing all of this. i have never had a boyfriend and am so ready. i want what all you have and am so excited for what is to come next in my life. hopefully next will be him, but something tells me ill have to wait a while. i get all tingly when i hear about you guys saying cute things about your partners.

Wow. Thanks for your replies. This is very encouraging. Like I said, I have had a hard time finding gay men who stick it out, or who are happy, but now I have found them!

I hope to someday have a relationship like yours. It will come in time!

In May it'll be 18 years for me and mine. Four states, five cities, two houses, three dogs, skads of in-law issues (he's the oldest of 8 kids, I'm one of 5), deaths of parents, deaths of friends. I don't recommend the four states, five cities part -- it's way too wearing.

Well, Kevin and I do not yet have the longevity of many of you....but it's been over two years now and I cannot imagine being with anybody else! I just LOVE <nearly> everything about him.
:cool:

Happy anniversary!!

It will be ten years for my guy and me in a couple of weeks. We'll celebrate on Super Bowl Sunday -- hopefully with his Pittsburgh Steelers in the big game (we had of course been hoping for a Packer-Steeler Super Bowl, but we all know what happened to that ... given the fortunes of the franchise, that may have to wait for our 20th!)

The ten years have been blissful (in case he reads this!). Like all couples we've had our ups and downs (99% ups) -- he's my lover, my best friend, my constant companion - don't wanna be a day without him.

[ January 14, 2005, 07:10 AM: Message edited by: DCBucky ]

8 years and counting here...

So much for that whole "guys can't commit" stereotype.

3 years in April! He was my first boyfriend. I got stuck but it's not so bad.

I've been with mine for 5 years and 7 1/2 months. We got married on our 5 year anniversary which was May 23rd, 2004.

Josh

It'll be 16 year on April 1st - which we think is completely appropriate! Three countries, 2 years separated by 3000 miles, 2 wonderful kids, 3 pets and countless smiles

Sometimes it really seems like 16 years, others it seems like we've just met, but not a day goes by without giving thanks for having him in my life.

Don't give up, CF... we were both 44 when we got together. Your guy is out there somewhere (he just doesn't know it yet )

Thanks man. I am only 29 and just came out about 2 years ago. Since then I have had one serious relationship and two semi-serious. I won't settle though. Honestly I am in no hurry. I've learned enough through the first three to know what I like and don't like. I see someone stuck it out with their first relationship. That is great. That would have been the easiest but I found that I am evolving in this lifestyle and I doubt we would be compatible now.

This is very encouraging.

My partner and I are going on 14 years now. 100% love and trust and 0% attitude.

I was with my partner almost 17 years. We split over 3 years ago, but he remains my best friend.

NJ

I really hope it happens to me someday. I am SO sick of dating losers. BUT ... I won't search for him. If I search, I'll never find him.

May 15th will be 13 years for us. It has been great too. Our familes are wonderful. My parents, his parents are so cool. We had a few issues at about year 7 and separated for about 3 months if you want to call it a separation. We didn't separate very well.

The separation was brought about because it seems I couldn't stay off the Internet with the new computer and it caused a rift in our relationship. I know better now. Once I was neutered I never went back in any of those chat rooms. Just didn't find it fun anymore. wink My partner and I are strictly monogamous. He will not have it any other way. LOL I wonder how many here are strictly monogamous? I have heard of many different LTR's that are made up very different ways. What are your thoughts?