Has anyone noticed the wave of BI teens & 20 somethings? This was first brought to my attention last year. My daughter, who was in the 7th grade told me that half of volleyball team was dating each other. I at first pasted it off as talk, but it appears that this is becoming a fad of sorts.
Also, I was talking to a guy at the gym and he was saying how he was sharing a cab with some people in Seatle and the girls in the cab just started making out.
Is anyone else noticing the popularity of being BI these days?
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No,not in Detroit.I personally don't care for "muffins",thank you.
Women are alot more likely to admit to this and participate in lesbianic liasons because straight men seem to be obsessed with it. Teenage guys are doing it to (probably to a lesser extent) but aren't going to admit it to a group of their friends due to the stigma still attached.
Two girls-Dude that's hot!
Two guys-Dude you're a fag!
Two girls-Dude that's hot!
Two guys-Dude you're a fag!
YES!! I think with the increased acceptance of homosexuality and its coverage and exposure on television, and just the overall changing society its become less taboo. I mean look at the Girls Gone Wild videos. They are constantly showing girls making out on that. In college the girls would be all over each other at the bars and at frat and sorority parties. I just think sexuality is a lot less restrictive nowadays. Some people do it for shock value. With girls its just much more accepted. Str8 guys love to see it and gay guys don't care.
As for bi guys its still much more on the low. A lot of guys in college were all macho and bragging about the girls they nailed but when they found out I was gay, many of them were trying to rap on my mic and confessing desires they had all along.
In high school though its much more increased and open. I am coming up on my 10 year high school graduation and there was no one openly gay at the time I was there. Sure there were rumors about people but no same sex dates at the prom. Well...in the years since I graduated its been several same sex dates at the proms and more openly gay people at the school.
As for bi guys its still much more on the low. A lot of guys in college were all macho and bragging about the girls they nailed but when they found out I was gay, many of them were trying to rap on my mic and confessing desires they had all along.
In high school though its much more increased and open. I am coming up on my 10 year high school graduation and there was no one openly gay at the time I was there. Sure there were rumors about people but no same sex dates at the prom. Well...in the years since I graduated its been several same sex dates at the proms and more openly gay people at the school.
I guess I just don't understand how something like that could be done simply because it's popular? Don't get me wrong, I can handle someone experimenting because they think they might be, but not becasue it's in style.
This is why so many still think it's a choice.
This is why so many still think it's a choice.
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Also, I was talking to a guy at the gym and he was saying how he was sharing a cab with some people in Seatle and the girls in the cab just started making out.
In Seattle people just dont care in general what your sexuality is. I tend to avoid guys that say they are bi and am usually not really attracted to younger guys, but it is interesting how this next generation is coming out.
Also, I was talking to a guy at the gym and he was saying how he was sharing a cab with some people in Seatle and the girls in the cab just started making out.
I still don't believe its choice. I don't believe it is a fad and don't like it when some use that terminology because it does suggest that its a choice. Homosexuality is no more or no less than it was 100 years ago. Its simply that there is more attention paid to it. With TV shows and movie portraying fictional and real life gays and openly gay politicians and activists, I just think today's generation feels more free to express themselves in a more open way. I mean you'd be surprised at the attitudes of many kids today. Many of them simply don't give a f**k, quite frankly. With more open attitudes about homosexuality and sexuality in general you simply have people who aren't waiting until they are 40 and 50 and have to go through a divorce and explaining to their kids that they were gay all along. They are coming out in their adolescence and in college and early 20s more.
Bi-sexuality is so 80's. 
(as a "fad" I mean)
[ October 10, 2005, 04:45 PM: Message edited by: swiminbuff ]
(as a "fad" I mean)[ October 10, 2005, 04:45 PM: Message edited by: swiminbuff ]
Don't get me started on this subject.... wink
I don't know if I would call it a fad, but I know for a fact that this is very common for the ladies on campus. Can't tell you how many times I've seen this equation:
Alcohol + 2 girls = Makeout.
Now, don't get me wrong, it's entertaining to watch a room full of straight guys go crazy for something I see when I go to the gay bar. At the same time though, this doesn't happen with guys. I think I've seen two straight guys makeout twice (both times to see breasts, oh straight boys
).
So, is it a fad? Not really, it's just a whole "I'm in college and I'm going to party" mentality.
Alcohol + 2 girls = Makeout.
Now, don't get me wrong, it's entertaining to watch a room full of straight guys go crazy for something I see when I go to the gay bar. At the same time though, this doesn't happen with guys. I think I've seen two straight guys makeout twice (both times to see breasts, oh straight boys
). So, is it a fad? Not really, it's just a whole "I'm in college and I'm going to party" mentality.
Two years ago I was at a party of - well mostly older grad students and younger profs, maybe 60 -70 people. Wild late night party.
A female friend of mine asked for a backrub. While I was doing that, a lady friend of hers started massaging her feet - and then the two of them started to make out. I was about to leave; but, at just about that same time the first ladies BF stared massaging my back, reached over and kissed me, and then nibbled at and stuck his toungue in my ear. While I was trying to decide what to do, we were joined by a friend of mine, his BF, and his two girlfriends...
Although not the majority, there were several gay and lesbian couples present. some participated, some did not.
I thought there were a couple of other knots of activity around the house.
I didn't see a sole leave, or hear an objection then or later, and the party continued on around us despite the flagrant PDA's.
I think maybe people are finally coming out of their shells in terms of public displays after a 25 year nap...
I thought I was back in the 70's again.
Frankly I think it is an enormous turn on that a guy will love me enough to say the hell with convention, and be willing to demonstrate affection in public...
R
A female friend of mine asked for a backrub. While I was doing that, a lady friend of hers started massaging her feet - and then the two of them started to make out. I was about to leave; but, at just about that same time the first ladies BF stared massaging my back, reached over and kissed me, and then nibbled at and stuck his toungue in my ear. While I was trying to decide what to do, we were joined by a friend of mine, his BF, and his two girlfriends...
Although not the majority, there were several gay and lesbian couples present. some participated, some did not.
I thought there were a couple of other knots of activity around the house.
I didn't see a sole leave, or hear an objection then or later, and the party continued on around us despite the flagrant PDA's.
I think maybe people are finally coming out of their shells in terms of public displays after a 25 year nap...
I thought I was back in the 70's again.
Frankly I think it is an enormous turn on that a guy will love me enough to say the hell with convention, and be willing to demonstrate affection in public...
R
sheer fantasy.
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shore:
sheer fantasy.
Which is the fantasy? The whole making out part or the part about graduate students and profs. having a party? Because I'm thinking the latter could be a lie. sheer fantasy.
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shore:
sheer fantasy.
sheer fantasy.
YOU hang out with the wrong crowd...You need to get out more; ESPECIALLY with those people your mama warned you about! eek!
:cool: R :cool:
[ October 10, 2005, 07:07 PM: Message edited by: ITJock ]
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ITJock:
Two years ago I was at a party of - well mostly older grad students and younger profs, maybe 60 -70 people. Wild late night party.
A female friend of mine asked for a backrub. While I was doing that, a lady friend of hers started massaging her feet - and then the two of them started to make out. I was about to leave; but, at just about that same time the first ladies BF stared massaging my back, reached over and kissed me, and then nibbled at and stuck his toungue in my ear. While I was trying to decide what to do, we were joined by a friend of mine, his BF, and his two girlfriends...
Although not the majority, there were several gay and lesbian couples present. some participated, some did not.
I thought there were a couple of other knots of activity around the house.
I didn't see a sole leave, or hear an objection then or later, and the party continued on around us despite the flagrant PDA's.
I think maybe people are finally coming out of their shells in terms of public displays after a 25 year nap...
I thought I was back in the 70's again.
Frankly I think it is an enormous turn on that a guy will love me enough to say the hell with convention, and be willing to demonstrate affection in public...
R
JESUS CHRIST ITJ, THAT'S AN EFFIN' ORGY! LOL
Two years ago I was at a party of - well mostly older grad students and younger profs, maybe 60 -70 people. Wild late night party.
A female friend of mine asked for a backrub. While I was doing that, a lady friend of hers started massaging her feet - and then the two of them started to make out. I was about to leave; but, at just about that same time the first ladies BF stared massaging my back, reached over and kissed me, and then nibbled at and stuck his toungue in my ear. While I was trying to decide what to do, we were joined by a friend of mine, his BF, and his two girlfriends...
Although not the majority, there were several gay and lesbian couples present. some participated, some did not.
I thought there were a couple of other knots of activity around the house.
I didn't see a sole leave, or hear an objection then or later, and the party continued on around us despite the flagrant PDA's.
I think maybe people are finally coming out of their shells in terms of public displays after a 25 year nap...
I thought I was back in the 70's again.
Frankly I think it is an enormous turn on that a guy will love me enough to say the hell with convention, and be willing to demonstrate affection in public...
R
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ITJock:
YOU hang out with the wrong crowd...
You need to get out more; ESPECIALLY with those people your mama warned you about! eek!
:cool: R :cool:
Your mama and your sister too eek!
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shore:
sheer fantasy.
sheer fantasy.
YOU hang out with the wrong crowd...You need to get out more; ESPECIALLY with those people your mama warned you about! eek!
:cool: R :cool:
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Erik G:
See Eric - you can be REALLY OFFENSIVE without even trying hard!QUOTE
ITJock:
YOU hang out with the wrong crowd...
You need to get out more; ESPECIALLY with those people your mama warned you about! eek!
:cool: R :cool:
Your mama and your sister too eek! QUOTE
shore:
sheer fantasy.
sheer fantasy.
YOU hang out with the wrong crowd...You need to get out more; ESPECIALLY with those people your mama warned you about! eek!
:cool: R :cool:
R
[ October 10, 2005, 09:13 PM: Message edited by: ITJock ]
I was married for almost 20 years and have two kids. Having sex with a woman for 20 years doesn't mean I'm straight. I'm 100% all american gay. Drunk girls having sex with other drunk girls doesn't make them lesbians or bi.
If a woman goes down on me, I'm gonna enjoy it. Seeing the woman naked would do nothing for me. Being gay, bi, straight is a hell of a lot more than who you have sex with.
Preachin to the choir, I know.
If a woman goes down on me, I'm gonna enjoy it. Seeing the woman naked would do nothing for me. Being gay, bi, straight is a hell of a lot more than who you have sex with.
Preachin to the choir, I know.
I've always liked what Gore Vidal says, paraphrased, "There are no homosexuals. There are only homosexual acts."
Ok, then explain the younger kids getting into the acts. I know from my daughter that 7th & 8th graders are doing it. My partner says kids at his elementry school are coming out and acting on it too.
I totally beleive being gay is not a choice, but to act on it is. And, we have all said we knew we were gay at a very young age (usually in hind site) but that is different than what these kids are doing.
Listening to my daughter tell it, if you don't try it then you aren't cool. That doesn't sound like people knowing who they are and acting on it, but people doing something to be cool.
I totally beleive being gay is not a choice, but to act on it is. And, we have all said we knew we were gay at a very young age (usually in hind site) but that is different than what these kids are doing.
Listening to my daughter tell it, if you don't try it then you aren't cool. That doesn't sound like people knowing who they are and acting on it, but people doing something to be cool.
Perhaps this is the beginning of the end of the world, a part of God's natural plan, to make heterosexuality obsolete, thus breeding a thing of the past and the human race ultimately non existant.
So much for that whole fire theory, destruction, and wars...
So much for that whole fire theory, destruction, and wars...
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ITJock:
R
Thanks Robit. I am reveling in the serendipity of the "Springer" moment. I am so proud of myself. I kept the syllable count down to two per word QUOTE
Erik G:
See Eric - you can be REALLY OFFENSIVE without even trying hard!QUOTE
ITJock:
YOU hang out with the wrong crowd...
You need to get out more; ESPECIALLY with those people your mama warned you about! eek!
:cool: R :cool:
Your mama and your sister too eek! QUOTE
shore:
sheer fantasy.
sheer fantasy.
YOU hang out with the wrong crowd...You need to get out more; ESPECIALLY with those people your mama warned you about! eek!
:cool: R :cool:
R
Bicycle, bicycle, bicycle...oh joy and it is a "bi" thread. So I can ride on both wheels and pedal backwards with the rest of you all. (fixed gear joke)
I am "bi" and I do not care if it is IN. Honestly, I just want to be loved and held by someone I am attracted to. I want to be understood. I want to be told it is all right, I tried, It is okay to let go of it all and die now. I have enough fight for an army but I do not need to suffer anymore. I can let go of the resistance and that resistance is not futile. I can return to the womb that spawned me and take comfort in never being born again.
I really need to stop spectating and ride my bi-cycle again.
I read an article about bisexuality and college students not too long ago in the AJC. It talked about college girls being more apt for bisexual encounters.
I went to a party two years ago, and we were playing a drinking game. There were three guys and seven girls. Every girl admitted to kissing another girl, and how they enjoyed it. They all said that girls were better kissers and had softer lips.
I disagreed. There is something sexy and hot about a man's stubble rubbing up against your face.
I went to a party two years ago, and we were playing a drinking game. There were three guys and seven girls. Every girl admitted to kissing another girl, and how they enjoyed it. They all said that girls were better kissers and had softer lips.
I disagreed. There is something sexy and hot about a man's stubble rubbing up against your face.
The Oct 10 issue of Time, cover story: The Battle over Gay Teens They are coming out earlier, to a more accepting society. So how did they end up on the front lines of America's culture war? It's a good article, nothing really revolutionary in the story, at least from my p.o.v., but good to see it being addressed. I can just see the letters to the editors now from parents or librarians at Christian schools who are disappointed by the topic being cover material.
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