So, what do you have planned for your Mom for Mother's Day??

Well, I was going to buy my mom a bunch of wire coat hangers, but now she says she wants an axe.

LXN

We're going to the PRM (People's Republic of Massachusetts) to visit my partner's mom. It'll be the first time I've met her... after 8 years.

Parts of my extended family (grandmother, aunts & uncles, cousins, kids, etc.) will be going for a Mother's Day brunch at a local hotel restaurant.

Brunch with the family here as well.

Card is in the mail and the phone call will come on Sunday. Finding a card for my mom can be difficult. It has to be funny and cannot be one of those "Dearest Mother, I love you more than the ocean is wide..." kinda things. Far Side cards were a good choice when they printed those, she loved the Far Side. Hallmark has that line of cards with the crotchety old woman with the sunglasses. At 82, my mom has a great sense of humor and quick wit, and much prefers humorous cards to sappy and sentimental ones.

No special brunch or anything. She will go to church and then watch golf and baseball while dad putzes around in the garden. The grandkids that live nearby will stop by for a visit. She'll talk with me and my siblings on the phone. It's just the way she likes to spend her Sundays whether it's Mother's Day or not.

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My mom is basking on some beach in Florida with my father, and I am sure that is what they will be doing on her day. A package goes out this morning for her...a DVD of "The Mommas and the Papas", one of her favorite groups, and a nice card. I will be basking on Miller beach...it's suppose to hit 80 degrees on Mother's Day. Special note to Allen....love the pic of Joan Crawford....God, what a wonderful bitch!

Just a sappy note to this thread.

I buried my mother and father in October of 1998, so my mothers day is spent taking a large bouquet of spring flowers (my mom's favorite) to the cemetary, where I sit and fill them in on what's happening with my life.

To paraphrase the Luther Vandross song, I'd love to dance with my mother again.

Give all your mom's a hug for me

Lksimcoe, I was touched by your reply, and I too will be visiting with my Mother at her cemetary. She lost her battle with cancer last December.

Like lksimcoe and puckman, my mom passed away (in 1998.) My way of honoring her memory on Mother's Day is to curl up with one of Agatha Christie's mysteries; she was Mom's favorite author and, as she became unable to read, she enjoyed having me read Christie to her.

~Adam

Since I live far away, I will be calling my crazy (and I do mean it in a loving way) Mom and my two Grandmas and wish them a Happy Mother's Day.

I totally forgot Mother's Day last year. I still have their Mother's Day cards sitting on my desk, so I better check to see if I can still use them or not.

Yes, it is sad of me to do, but I think it would be better and they wouldn't want me to spend a lot. They would yell at me if I did.

I just have to remember not to mention to my Grandma Thelma how her married boyfriend is doing. I tend to let things slip on by error. Whoops!!

Adam:

Up here, the CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corp) has started to carry Coronation Street 5 nights a week. Well, I REFUSE to get hooked on that show like my mom did, (she was from England), but Sunday morning, before the drive to the cemetary, I'll sit down, watch the 1 hour weekly episode, and then talk about it at the grave site.

I know that when I do that my father, somewhere, is rolling his eyes, but all's fair. On father's day, I talk about the cottage and fishing. Something that bored my Mom.

Count me in among those who have lost their Moms. Ma passed away in 1997, and the grave is 400 miles away, too far to visit (I did go at St. Patrick's Day, however, when I was visiting the rest of the family).

So instead this Sunday I will weed the garden, where my rose bushes refuse to stop growing. Ma loved roses, and worked for years to get a rose bush to take in the sandy soil at our house in Massachusetts. She finally got one to thrive and was overjoyed; it was one of the first things the new owners of the house got rid of after Dad sold the place in 1998 (damn them!). The day I closed on my house in 2003 was also the first day I saw all the rose bushes in bloom, and the site of all those flowers, especially the yellow ones (they were Ma's favorite) made it seem like she was approving my choice of a house.

RIP Ma.

My mother is still alive and kickin', and so is her mother. In fact, this Mother's Day will mark her 95th birthday. Big brunch and dinner, and lots of together time.

LXN

Lksimcoe, may I/we ask what happened to your parents? Were they in an accident? frown

My Mother lives in North Carolina. I am in Florida. She will get a nice card and phone call from me and my partner. My partner's Mother lives in North Carolina too.

My Mom and Dad are coming to visit us at the end of May to spend almost a week. They love to visit here where it's warm.

I wish I could be home for mother's day this year, but unfortunately, due to work and school, I couldn't even fly out just for the weekend.
My mom's psychiatric condition has worsened in the past 5 years. She just bounced back again from her paranoia. She also suffers from depression, which she manages poorly. She takes her meds religiously, but when her moods are good, she would quit taking her meds which would make her crash. Now that I am in my mid30's I already let go of my issues with my parents, and Mother's day and Father's Day often drags me down because I don't get a chance to spend that day with them.
So if I ever get a chance to spend Mother's day with Mom... I'll probably take her out to the mall..she loves shopping and I'll try to pick out something she might like, to see if I still know her taste. She probably wouldn't enjoy having lunch or dinner out, but she'll like it if I take her to have a sundae, and probably take her to a nice long walk. I miss my Mom.

My father died on Oct 22 of 1998 from a metastisized (sp?) melanoma. He apparently knew he was dying, but didn't want to worry the kids, so the day he died, he drove himself to the hospital.
I was away on business, and hadn't told Wayne the hotel I was staying at, and my was only 1.5 hours away from my parents. My dad died asking for me. (can you say one huge f**kING guilt trip). About 10 days before my dad died, I told him that whatever decision he made, only he would know when the pain would be too much, and I would be there to help him, no matter what the law said. Unfortunately I didn't get to be there.

4 days after my father died, my mother closed her eyes and was gone. The day before the doc had told my sisters and me that she had the heart of a middle aged woman. And she died of heart failure. We know that she died of a broken heart. The wierd thing was that the night my mom died, one of my sisters and I had the same dream. It was my dad, standing at the foot of my mom's bed, saying "come on Stella, we're going to be late".

My mother came to Canada in 1944 to escape an extremely abusive marriage (we didn't find out she had been married in England until after she died. My father never did know). When she met my Dad, she devoted the next 51 years to him and to us. He was her whole life, and could not fathom going on without him, so she chose to join him.

BUT, and I say this REALLY BITCHILY. People who walk up to you in a funeral home, after losing BOTH parents the same freakin week, and say, "Isn't that nice, they're together again", are my PRIME candidates for KER-BLAM!!!!

I'm sorry for all those whom lost their mothers. Even though I won't see my mom on her day, I still feel really, really lucky to have her here on this planet. I dread the day I lose her, because I will have lost my best friend.

Since I came out several years ago, my mom and I don't speak. I did send her a dozen pink roses (her favorite) and a card just to let her know that I still love her.

Love is an amazing thing. My partner's parents were married for 40+ years. His dad had Alzheimer's and his mother had cancer. After years of taking care of her husband, she died and he died 10 days later. I only hope that my partner and I can share such love.

So are any of you going to take Mom or even Grandma to an amusement park and ride like the roller coasters?

I think that would be a fun Mother's Day.

I knew a guy who took her mother skydiving one mothers day.

The best we did for my mother was the Richard Petty Driving Experience.

I am flying home to Knoxville tomorrow...and my mom has no idea.

What a great surprise!! Have a good time.

I did that for Easter. My family was shocked!! I loved it!!

For Mother's Day I am going to be telling my mother that I am PREGNANT!

I am 5 weeks along with our first baby, and my parent's first grandchild. I bought a bunch of baby things, and put them in a basket with a lid, and when we give it to her, we are going to tell her it's just a bunch of stuff she will need soon.

She might cry, faint, throw-up and/or scream. She might do one thing or she might do all of them in the span of 3 seconds. No matter what, it's gonna be a huge show.

Congratulations Married Lady! If it's a boy, will he be named Joey? wink

~Adam

I'll second Adam's congratulations! And it can be named Joey if it's a girl too!

Maybe she'll reply "Oh my gosh, how did you find out I was pregnant/adopting" or words to that effect. Congratulations!

Thanks every one!

No, I can report that our child will not be named Joey, be it a boy or a girl. Right now, we are leaning towards Paul Daniel or Beatrice Belle.

As for now, we are calling the baby Zorak, because one of the pictures of a fetus in Week 4 looked like Zorak from Space Ghost and we thought that was a great "work-in-progress" name.

Married Lady, it's so funny how instantly everyone associates "Joey" with you, it must be nice to be so closely connected to your idol. Unless it gets to the stalking phase. And best wishes with the baby.

I am really bad at birthdays, holidays, gifts, etc. They usually come and go without me noticing, and I wasn't even raised Jehovah Witness. I am very good about sending gifts, cards, flowers, spa appointments, etc throughout the year when least expected. So I let my other siblings do the work on the appropirate days and I catch up at other times. This year I will be making a surprise visit home one week after Mother's Day, which is close, but no cigar. I'm going home more just to make the drive, see the country along the way, and to spend some time with my Mom in the backyard or in the mountains at night gazing at stars.

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