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Originally posted by rich_sf:
This is hard to fathom. Go back to work 3 hours after her death, and arrange the funeral to accommodate your coaching schedule?? Life does go on, but that sounds extreme. Grief works in strange ways sometimes. From his words it seems clear that he's honoring his wife's dying wishes, but it also sounds like he's in deep denial and not yet grasping the loss.
I would think that sooner or later, either willingly or involuntarily, he's going to have to stop everything and just learn to accept the huge change in his life. I do hope he'll be OK.
I think I understand. The morning my partner died I raced home from the hospital. He wanted certain possessions to go to certain people, and I felt like I HAD to do it immediately. I put all the items in my car and drove around bringing everyone the things he wanted them to have. People were shocked by the sight of me, calmly saying "Rod died this morning here, he wanted you to have this. Gotta go." It was several hours of respite from what awaited me, and I gave no thought to the fact that I must have seemed insane. He asked me to do it, I said I would, and it had to be done. Barber will have plenty of time to cry and ponder the chasm in his heart, but he can't do it until he's done what he felt his wife wanted. He's in my prayers.