Hi Everyone – I really don’t know how to start this. I guess, I will start anyways. I am a guy with a lot of things that I cant to talk to a lot of people about. To everyone I have always been the dude with “THE HOTTEST AND MOST POPULAR” tag. But in this blog I want to introduce another part of me too. The part that I have been all the while I was the popular dude at school and now in college………I am gay.

I am the dude with the not –so-popular secret. Its funny how everyone wants to be best friends with me and talk to me - but somehow I have no one to talk to about a very real part of me. Im not even sure if they will listen when I say it. So I decided to write down everything I feel and experiences I have had - things I can tell nobody personally.

I am not ashamed of being gay. But I know that once I tell people it will make it bigger than I am. Being gay is a part of me – it is not me. It only a part of me.

I have worked very hard to be where I am in life today. I have achieved a lot in my career which I started professionally while I was in high school. I have been hailed and got a lot of praise for it (I dont want to reveal the career at the moment). So much being in stake - I have no intention of coming out right now. Then there is family. My parents whom I love a lot - my family's status in society and my goals in life which are associated with my career.

But what I want to do is start a talk with other guys who are in the same position as me as well as everyone else. I am sure there are other jocks, homecoming kings, Mr Populars of their schools or colleges and even people who work in the public eye like sportstars, actors, directors, musicians, singers, directors who are in the same position and have no one to talk to. Please feel free to contact me in anyways possible. I will be making an aim and msn too. For now please feel free to email me at secretblogin@gmail.com.

The link to my blog is this www.apopulardudessecretlife.blogspot.com

Read on guys. And give me comments, dude.

Hi SB!

First, it's a good place round here, and I'm glad that you are here. I see that you posted this in other sections. I'm replying here, because this may be the most appropriate forum and the editors may consolidate the responses.

Now, I've read a bit of your blog, and you are right there are many positive gay role models in history. They also include many who were not conquerors. What was admirable about Alexander was that he could inspire others. I do not admire the glory he sought, i.e. military conquest. There are others that I'd be glad to recommend to you.

More importantly, there are positive gay role models today. I posted about one...an Australian Olympic diver. Take a look at him. Or the ones nominated by Cyd for the Logo awards. They are all in leadership positions.

Reading your blog, I take it you are still in school. While blogging and posting on forums such as this are wonderful ways to express yourself, talking to a person face to face is far better. Is there a professor, an advisor, or someone else, perhaps a family friend, in whom you could confide? Believe me, it helps.

Good Luck to you!

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