Hey guys,

Im pretty new to the gay world, and live in San Francisco, yet am having problems meeting other guys that I have things in common with. While I am not a huge sports buff (I still like my college sports, find that the spirit and competitive nature is very alive there) it seems like every guy that is a fan that I think is gay turns out to be straight (and really awkward after I ask) or they are all very feminine (while I am more masculine/attracted to masculine guys). Is their any advice you guys can give me where I can meet like minded guys?

Thanks

Join a gay sports team, you dont have to be a star athlete to play,or join some other gay social group that interests you. Your local gay newspaper or community centre probably has listings.

That's what they say: if you want to meet people who like what you like, then you should do what you like to do. If you like sports, join a league. If you like books, join a book club. If you like films, volunteer at a film festival. If you like politics, volunteer for a candidate you like. If you live in San Francisco, there should be plenty of gay groups, organizations and events that you can participate in.

Yea I all ready know of those options, and thats what sucks about being a college student. I can barely afford to live in this city let alone pay all those damn fees lol.

Yes, it's tough being a "starving student," but mot everything costs a lot of money.

Here in San Francisco there are lots of options for gay people. You may want to start with the LGBT Center on Market Street at Octavia to give you some contacts. You could also use good ol' Google to put in "name of sport gay San Francisco" and see what pops up.

From what you have said you aren't exactly shy.

Have you thought about going to a gay sports bar to watch a game? You'd definitely meet gay guys with similar interests to yours. A couple words of conversation are pretty easy because the topic is on the TV right in front of you and you don't necessarily have to go alone. In my experience, straight friends are more likely to go to a gay sports bar than a gay night club or leather bar or something like that.

My partner & I were in SF over Labor Day weekend & we went to The Pilsner Inn on Church near Market. When he lived up north for 12 years he played on a softball team & they often went there after their games & so did lots of other sports fans. I don't know what's it like on regular basis but there were some hotties the 2 times that we went. Also, on one occasion we asked the bartender if he could, please, turn on one of the tvs to watch the SC football game. He gladly obliged. Good luck.

My suggestion would be to befriend as many gay dudes as you can. One of them is bound to have a single friend that you find attractive or invite you to a holiday party where a bunch of hot guys are present. Good luck!