Here is an obvious one, John Amaechi

who is an example of the first (along with several out gay ex-pros).
For the second, Roger Federer

who was almost universally knocked among fans and secretly envied by athletes I'll bet.
Interestingly I could find no picture of him crying in the presence of a tennis ball. When he sees one, it seems he is always clear-eyed and all business.
Any others?