So I walk into a bar last night here in Austin (nearly 3months) after me and my ex had broken up. He cheated.

I see him holding hands with a guy. I could tell he was introducing him to his friends. So it looks like its the new byfriend.

it was really weird. I was cool while at the bar but realy became emtional afterwards.

not that i am a saint but i gave my ex so much...i loved him tons and then he cheated and it crushed me.

not easy to see him with the new guy and seeimg very happy.

any tips on how to handle this emotion. i am sick of crying over him...not everyday but it seems like every 10 days i think of something and i break down.

thanks

As they say, time heals all wounds. Give yourself time.

And when seeing your ex in public, with or without the new bf, be the class act and make him realize what he lost.

Again, as they say, living well is the best revenge.

If you still are responding emotionally when you see him I'd also avoid going to places you know that he likes to go to or where more than likely you'll run into him. That'll make it easier.

I'd also consider pampering yourself to maybe a lil weekend getaway where you can relax, have a good time, & perhaps meet/hook up w/ someone.

Hang in there!

I say find a new bar. Good luck!

Great advice already!

If you do run into him again, take the high road. Hold your head up high! Treating people with a nonchalant attitude or kindness, when they expect a scene, wins out every time.

You'll get over him!

It will take time, but you will get over it....
It took me about 4-6 months during a particularly painful break...

I was still in love with my ex after we broke up, and it was really hard to see him with other men, especially since I wasn't seeing anyone. But it gets easier with time. Now we're great friends... and usually I'm telling him he can do better than the guy he's with, and go find someone else. LOL

EXCELLENT advice. Also if you know you are going to run into him, get the best looking hottie you can to show up with. He'll eat his heart out!

Something to consider as well:

If he seemed as if he were having a really good time, the key word might be "seemed." I've known people who have ricocheted out of a relationship and gone off to show off the new conquest immediately. He might be trying to convince everybody that leaving the relationship was the right thing to do -- including himself.

Be polite, enjoy yourself on your own terms, and take the high road. If he realizes that he lost a gem, someone else will figure it out. And that's who you'll be dating down the road.

And then again...maybe he really is happy. Regardless, I am suspect about advice that suggests that someone express emotions that aren't real. Why pretend?