Hey Guys,

Quick question, I've been wondering for the last few weeks about my work situation. What it boils down to is that I'd much rather be working than on a date. My career is all I am thinking about right now; I enjoy it, it's fulfilling and I'm having a lot of fun. Does that make me a workaholic? I just don't see investing a lot of time in potential boyfriends and I don't really care, which is what made me question it in the first place.

Just make sure you pay attention to your emotional and physical needs, and create balance in your life. You can do that without dating or having a boyfriend.

Jay...you're driven. Workaholic is a term created by people who are ok with their situation, but are either too lazy or lack the ambition to take it to the next level. I have had this problem for years with some of the guys I have dated. Now I will say that I enjoy having someone to share things with, but my career and determination to be retired by 45 is something that drives me. We all have priorities in our lives and yours happens to be your career. What makes you think you are a "workaholic" though? Are you working 70-80 hour work weeks? Do you take your work home on the weekends? Do you cancel events because of work?

As for the boyfriend...no you don't need one but hopefully you are getting it in somewhere. I don't know how old you are but at 31 I'm over having various jump offs. My boyfriend is also driven and it causes drama at times because of our work so not having a boyfriend you could definitely avoid that. I don't know..its different for everyone.

I'd add to mdterp's excellent comments that there will be points in your life where you're driven and points where you won't be so driven. if your drive is constant, 24/7, then I'd say that you might be a workaholic. But being focused on your career for a while is fine, and when you get to where you want to be, then you ease up. If you never, ever ease up, then I would reassess priorities.

I've said this elsewhere, but a boyfriend need not be the be-all and end-all of your life. My two cents.

Nobody's dying words have ever been, "I wish I'd spent more time at the office."

Just sayin'.

You're getting a lot of good advice, Jay. just two things to add:

Nobody ever drowned himself in his own sweat!

If you're ridin' ahead of the herd, take a look back
every now and then to make sure it's still there with you.



He's a good man who offered it, and I'm glad to pass it along.

Jay - great post. I also love my work and like to work. I often prefer working to most "recreational" activities.

Fortunately, my partner works in the medical profession, one week on and one week off. I arrange my schedule to work more when he is working so that we can spend time together during his off weeks.

The last couple of years when I am not working I am usually working out - so there is always some sort of work going on.

It's wonderful to hear that you are passionate about your job and career. Too often, people like us are marginalized and deemed to be hopeless "workaholics". A healthy relationship will develop for you in time and you won't have to make a choice.

Good luck!

Thanks for all of the great advice! I don't think work is an addiction for me but it is a lot of fun and I was just wondering if I were having too much fun to the detriment of other aspects of my life. But I don't think that I am. Part of it too is that a lot of people complain about how they hate work so when I am around friends sometimes I get that backlash because they are just punching a clock. And yeah, I agree that the boyfriend will come...

Happy Holidays!!!!