I'm having a hard time dealing with the death of my cat, Marble, who passed away a little over a week ago. I feel fine as long as I'm at work, but I start feeling bad when I get home at night and on weekends.

I can't really afford to see a therapist right now, so I'm looking for some advice on how to cope. Any tips you have would be welcome.

Thanks!

Eric

Eric I really feel for you. Several years ago I had to put down my dog that I had for 14 years. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It was 18 months before I was ready to get another one. If you feel like having another cat will help then I'd say go for it.

I don't think there's any easy way to get over the loss. I think you just have to experience the loss and grief. If you try to deny it, it will come up somehow later. If you feel like crying, do it. Acknowledge how you feel. Remind yourself of the good things too....how well you took care of Marble, the great home you provided, etc...

I buried Sam in the yard and I was able to get some nicely shaped rocks and make a marker for him. At one point a stem of a wine glass broke and I then used the glass as a vase.

Even though I have a different dog that I enjoy very much I still miss Sam from time to time.

I really feel for you and hope you're being good to yourself during your grieving period.

I'm so sorry Eric. Many of us have discussed on the board having to say good-bye to a beloved pet. I had to do this in 2007. I still have a 16 year old cat and I am dreading that time when I have to say good-bye to her. I am not planning on adopting another pet after "Peaches" is gone. There has already been too many losses in my life (humans and animals) Try and find solace in knowing that you kept Marble safe and that you provided a good home. Take care of yourself.

I'm sorry, Eric. Our pets are unique in all they add to our lives. It's cool to have that connection and sad to lose it, but well worth having had it. I've focused on that last part to ease the grief I've experienced.

Sorry to hear of your loss, Eric. I've been down this same road, and words can't express it. Give yourself time to mourn. You really did lose a family member. But, like just about everything in life, time heals and this too shall pass.