QUOTE(Shytownmofo @ Nov 13 2011, 08:02 PM)

I wasn't referring to your post, Idiot. Learn some reading comprehension.
And yes, I would like to know why this went on for so many years, and there were so many chances for this to end; so many allegations by improper conduct by Sandusky, and no one did their job and took it to the next level. Not one person.
My only conclusion is that someone pulled some strings. Someone in a position of power. Someone Like Joe Paterno. Even if he simply asked the higher ups at the university to go easy on his friend, that is reprehensible, and he deserves whatever he gets.
Another thing about sexual abuse, something that is hard to comprehend unless it's touched your life, and even then it's difficult to wrap your head around, is that it really is a crime of intimidation. So many cases, such as the Graham James incidents with Sheldon Kennedy and other players, So many incidents of sexual abuse perpetrated by family members, etc. is that there's the threat of reprisal if someone tells. "Tell and I'll rip your f**kin' head off!" Even if the victims are being bribed to keep quiet, there's still a horrible, horrible shame involved. No one wants to admit that they're being abused. Especially if they're male. There's a real, strong stigma against being a male victim of sexual abuse, especially if the perpetrator is a man.
You make a HUGE assumption that all the boys were "victims". I think if any of the boys wanted the sexual contact, were struggling with how to be intimate with a man, etc.... it's dangerous to tell them that what they were thinking was horrible, and in fact can lead to shame around sex and male to male intimacy for the rest of their lives.
It's obvious that you have made up your mind and are using your judgements to globalize the experience that all the boys had w/ Sandusky, whether it's true or not. I don't think anyone, least of all the prosecutor filing the charges, which is the only information that's out there right now, knows that. Those papers weren't filed with the guys best interest in mind. The way they're worded isn't for the benefit of anyone other than the prosecutors. The prosecutors haven't even proven that what they allege has happened. So we have one highly predjudiced account of what happened out there and there could be much much more about the experiences on either side of the ledger. They could have been more horrific than written, or they could be exaggerated. That's still yet to be shown.
I only speak from the kids perspective. It's clear if the contact happened Sandusky is guilty and should be punished to the full extent of the law. How the guys are treated is a totally separate issue.
If any of the kids were ok with the contact, sought out the contact, etc.. they won't be well served by hysterical broad sweeping statements of how victimized they were, how criminal the behavior was, etc. They need a discussion about why we have the statutory rape laws and that their feelings weren't wrong or perverted. And how he used power to take advantage of them an that they're worth more than that, that if they want gay contact they don't have to let their partners take advantage of them, etc.... Many, many, many gay men were taken advantage of. Some of them sought it out as kids trying to deal with their sexuality and when it was discovered were further traumatized by family and others with negative messages of male intimacy.
As much as we should condemn Sandusky we should try to make a safe space for the guys to discuss and deal with what happened if they need to. Some may have dealt with it already. Some may have been ok with it. It doesn't help them, and it's not an honest discussion of the issue, to tell them how much of a victim they are if they don't feel victimized.
And FYI it's not illegal, or even immoral for a 12 year old boy to want to have sex with an adult, male or female. Those feelings are going to happen. It's the adult's responsibility to refuse. Violating that is a crime. Whether it's morally right or wrong, or healthy, is a question that remains different in different cultures. You have obviously taken a view and believe everyone else should believe as you do. I probably have a very similar view to yours. I do, however, feel an obligation to remain open to at least hearing how this issue is handled in different cultures and remember that it's "right" for them.