The Hamms'
Gay Uncle
Daniel Scott Hamm was a strong influence on his Olympic nephews
on and off the matBy
Cyd Zeigler Jr. |
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Paul and Morgan
Hamm have gotten plenty of international attention since the duo won
a combined four medals at the 2004 Summer Olympics in Athens. Long
before that, though, they were the apple of their uncle’s eye.
Daniel Scott Hamm,
who says he’s now “30-something,” is one cog in the wheel of a giant
Hamm clan that hails from Wisconsin. In fact, Daniel says that
Morgan and Paul are just two of 16 nieces and nephews he has. While
Daniel is just one of a large family, for Paul and Morgan he is an
important part.
The two boys were
very young when Daniel brought a boyfriend home for Christmas. The
boys’ sister at that time was becoming involved in gymnastics and
Daniel’s sister-in-law was prodding Daniel to demonstrate some moves
to build the boys’ interest in the sport. Daniel was a gymnast
himself and his sister-in-law wanted Morgan and Paul, who had
already expressed an interest in it, to pursue it.
Daniel, however,
was leery of performing for the boys. He wanted them to explore the
sport themselves and not feel like they had to walk in the footsteps
of their uncle. Daniel and his boyfriend at the time were involved
in Club MTV, a dance show that involved lots of hip-hop and R&B (the
genre of music that Paul and Morgan have always been drawn to).
Daniel’s boyfriend wasted no time in busting out a routine for the
boys that was heavy on the gymnastics.
“My boyfriend
started doing headstands and cartwheels that were just awful,”
Daniel remembers. “But it got the boys interested.”
A couple years
later, when Daniel saw his nephews perform, he was astounded at
their talent-level.
“They were doing
things at 12 that I wasn’t doing when I finished as a freshman in
college,” he says. He remembers telling his sister-in-law, “The only
thing that can stand in their way is if they don’t develop
physically in time.”
Obviously, they
developed just fine.
Daniel now lives in
New York City with his partner, Edward Morgan. Together they run a
ballet company in New York City,
The
MorganScott Ballet.
On their return to
the United States, the twins made New York one of their first stops.
That stop included a dinner with their favorite gay uncle and
Edward.
The couple followed
the sudden superstars to Connecticut for their first performance as
part of the
2004 Rock ‘N Roll Gymnastics Championships.
His family wasn’t
always quite so welcoming of his sexuality. When he first came out
of the closet, they were a little surprised and maybe a bit
standoffish. It didn’t take long, though, for his brother, the
twins’ dad, to come around, and for the rest of their family to
follow suit.
Daniel says his
relationship with the twins is special in their family because he is
one of only a couple of family members with whom they can talk about
gymnastics. Daniel remembers going home for Christmas after the 2000
Olympic Games in Sydney. The U.S. men’s gymnastics team had failed
to medal and the twins came home empty-handed.
Daniel talked to
them about the difference between gymnastics in America and
gymnastics overseas. He talked about how deep homophobia ran in
American sports, and how it had seeped into gymnastics. He pointed
out how being a male gymnast in the United States meant proving your
masculinity and strength; overseas, gymnasts were interested in
expressing themselves and developing flair and extension. He
encouraged Morgan and Paul to not succumb to these pressures they
would watch other American gymnasts fall victim to.
They heard him loud
and clear. Their comfort with their own sexuality allowed them to
blossom into gold- and silver-medal winning Olympians, with Paul the
first American male to win the overall competition.
While some people
may wish that the twins were gay, Daniel thinks it’s even better
that they’re not.
“How great is it
that they’re not gay,” Daniel says. “We in the gay community keep
putting pressure on gay athletes to come out. We should be putting
pressure on the straight athletes to come out and take a stand and
say, ‘I applaud my gay teammates. They should be able to bring their
partners to games, and it should be OK.’”
When asked what
might be on the horizon for his two bright nephews, Daniel got
downright giddy.
“They are destined
for things that are even greater than their achievements in
athletics,” he says. While he wouldn’t elaborate, the realm of
politics were mentioned.
With their
gay-friendly attitude, and their uncle to help guide them, we can
only hope that day comes sooner than later.
Sept. 30, 2004
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