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A gay Wildcat's coming out

Editor's Note: Brandon Meier is a cheerleader at Kansas State. He is a senior in his final season. You can find him on Facebook.

Previous to the start of my last year of my undergraduate degree, I decided to come out. It had been something I had struggled with for a great deal of my life, unknowingly, and would make excuses and lie to myself about who I really was. I came out through social media to take control of my own life, and not let rumors and gossip spread by peers determine or shape my life. This is the post that I posted when coming out:

"Many of you I’m really close to but there are a large majority who aren’t. I learned a lot in my time abroad, a big portion being self acceptance and having the opportunity to start over and be myself. Growing up I never viewed myself as being different and just thought of myself as Brandon, which is how it is. I am me. I am Brandon.

That being said, I am GAY.

Being gay doesn’t change who I am as a person. It is just a part of me. Just as being born with two legs, two arms, two eyes, a nose, and a mouth is a part of me. I can’t change that, nor would I ever want to change that or who I am. Not for anyone. And I’m thankful for everyone I met abroad who taught me that it is okay to be gay and to be yourself. I still enjoy working out, doing sports, having a beer, and being a guy. Being gay also doesn’t change that.

I don’t want this post to be a long soapbox nor is it one. I just want to clear the air for those who don’t know and I know it may not be the best way, but it is the best way I know who for me to come out and have control over who knows without all the shady gossip and rumors that people toss around when they could honestly come up to me and just ask. I am comfortable enough with myself now and accept myself for who I am. I am not a confrontational person or one who likes to make big announcements as I feel that my personal life really isn't anyone's business or anyone's business who I am involved with and it shouldn’t matter. Love is love.

I want to thank everyone I met while abroad and who supported me, my family for accepting me and loving me unconditionally, and all my friends, those abroad included, for being there for me and continue to be there for me. I’m looking forward to this chapter in my life and moving forward proud of who I am."

After doing so, I received an overwhelming sense of love and support by my family and friends and being a student athlete for a Big XII school, in a fraternity, and a college student this was a big weight off my shoulders, as I had many fears about what people would think. I am glad I took the leap and dive into the unknown, and I couldn't be happier!

Be who you are, and don't let others views define you!