Univ. of Texas swimmer Matt Korman comes out to teammates in email

University of Texas swimmer Matt Korman
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We got this email last week from a swimmer at the University of Texas whose teammate had just come out to the team:

In the past week, one of my teammates came out to us in a beautifully written email. I would love for y'all to contact him and possibly tell his story. He's an incredibly bright young man with a great future in swimming at Texas. We have all been 100% supportive and have tried to provide him with the best environment possible, simply changing nothing.

We thought it was pretty cool that an athlete would think so highly of his teammate's coming out that he would want the world to know about it.

When we contacted junior Matt Korman, he said he had come out to his family at home and just didn't want to hide who he was from his team any longer. Coming out to his mother was "one of the greatest experiences" of his life. While he was afraid of how his team would react, it's been amazing.

"I've been totally blessed by this whole situation because it's gone so well," Korman said. "I've gotten zero negative feedback. There were a couple guys who always throw around the word faggot and try to make every situation as masculine as possible. We have guys from the middle of nowhere conservative Texas. But they've been like, 'we're totally fine, you're still my friend and my teammate and good for you.'"

Korman competed for Texas Christian University before transferring to Texas his sophomore year. Texas hosts the NCAA championships in March.

Here's the email he sent to his team that got the ball rolling:

Guys,

The last year has been a rather difficult one for me and I have spent a lot of time soul searching and trying to figure out which end is up. One thing in particular has taken me quite a long time to come to terms with, and I want to address it here and now because it's way past due.

Within the past year, I have fallen into a state of depression, which has deeply affected my life. I have had a hard time sleeping at night, eating, and have lost a lot of interest in swimming. For the first time in my career, I was ready to quit swimming at the end of the summer. Not many people have noticed something has been wrong. The ones that did, I just blamed all the stress on my schoolwork, which has been my scapegoat. But, I miss sleeping at night; being happy and being the person I used to be when it didn't really matter. Although this has been something I have known for a while, it hit me particularly hard more recently as I have realized that I'm not getting any younger and would like to start dating and enjoy the simple things of life that I have been missing out on. When I was younger I thought I was only curious or it was just a phase for me, but have come to terms that I'm actually gay. (There, I finally said it)

For a long time I tried to be someone that I am not. By opening up and talking about it I have learnt that this is normal and its okay to be who I am. I have accepted myself for who I am. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It is not something that I choose. It just is.

Please know that I am telling you this about myself because I love you guys and I really want you to know this important part of me. I was growing tired of all the lying, dishonesty, and pretending. You all have always been there for me and supported me in everything that I do. You are and forever will be my brothers. I simply couldn't continue to hide this from you anymore because it was slowly killing me. I want you to know me for who I am. I pray that this will not change anything, but I know for some of you this is uneasy. I want you all to know that I am here to have an open dialogue. If you have questions or concerns please be honest with me as I am being with you. Do not hesitate to ask me questions if you have any (appropriate ones). I know this email has been a bit heavy and I apologize for that. All I can do is hope you will accept me for who I am and realize that I really haven't changed. I am still the same me.

I love you guys & thank you for listening.

Best,

Matt

Congratulations to Korman and to the entire Univ. of Texas swim team. Another example of how deep LGBT acceptance now runs in sports!

You can find Matt Korman on Twitter @MattKorman.



Comments

Quite touching

I’m happy for you Matt!

Courageous young man

Cyd, great story and I plan on sharing it with my blog readers. Need more of these heartwarming stories. Thank you Cyd for bringing it to us.

hookem' horns!

very happy for Matt, and he does have a lot of support.

lets be careful not to forget that all the bigots & homophobes, that were so visible in years past, have
not gone away. They are still around with their hate, its just gone underground now. There are many haters
at Texas, who realize its not PC to express their views anymore, but they are still there chatting and working
against our progress.

First of all

Congrats to Matt. I wish I had an ounce of the courage you displayed in your email to your team. That’s pretty amazing. Also, to the teammate who pushed his story forward, thank you for doing so. It is very inspirational and deserved to be seen by as many as possible.

By the way, Matt, I just happen to be one of those guys from “the middle of nowhere conservative Texas”. Yeah, it’s not exactly a fun place to live, but just know that this closeted west Texan really enjoyed your story and hopes to piggyback off it for my own progress.

very proud of you Matt

i wish you the very best in your new life. i lived a lie for 46 years until i meet my husband and i was so proud of him i couldnt hide it. hadeto shout out as loud as i could. i lost family and friends but guess what the true ppl and family will always be there. we got married june 29th this year and have been together for 7 years now. so loves out there and your a strong brave guy you will find it. best wishes from us both look us up on face book Robert Thomas email. sc_rob2011@yahoo.com if you ever want to talk. love you bro

"It is not something that I choose. It just is."

Most important words in his letter, and perhaps the most important realization in having the best influence on others that one can have.

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