Brown University water polo player Hank Weintraub is setting an example for gay athletes on campus everywhere

By Dan Woog

Hank Weintraub is a gay athlete. He kicks, scratches, elbows and grabs opponents’ balls.

That makes him no different than any straight athlete playing water polo. In that game, anything goes, so long as officials don’t see it. What happens underwater stays underwater.

"It's hard to explain why I love water polo," Weintraub, a junior at Brown University, says. "It's like swimming, but so much better. I've played since second grade, and it's still fun."

Six players and a goalie split halves – each plays one half in the shallow end, one in the deep. “It’s very physical, very intense,” Weintraub notes. “It takes speed, strength, stamina and intelligence.” His forte is reading the game because, he says, “I’m not the biggest, strongest, or fastest guy.” He is 5’11”, 185 pounds (though, he jokes, “my Internet stats are 6’1″, 205”).

Water polo’s “fairly homophobic” culture is similar to other sports, Weintraub says; though he adds that that’s not the case at Brown. Los Angeles native Weintraub chose the Rhode Island Ivy League school over California colleges where the sport is more popular, in part because he did not want to red-shirt. Other reasons included Brown’s excellent academics and the opportunity to enjoy New England seasons.

Then there was his sexuality.

With only 12 players, the team environment was tight. “You’re in direct contact with your teammates all the time,” he says. “And because Brown is so liberal and gay, it’s not okay to be homophobic. I knew it would be a good place to be out.”

After coming out to himself as a junior at L.A.’s private Harvard-Westlake School, Weintraub told three teammates. But they were not very good players or socially influential, he says, so his secret was safe. Worried about his relationships with teammates, a negative impact on college recruitment, and the effect on his younger brother at the same school, he did not come out publicly until just before graduation.

But he was out at Brown even before he enrolled. His new teammates knew by looking at his Facebook profile. They were cool; the senior captain was out, too.

Weintraub came out casually to his coaches in the van on road trips, by talking about guys. Assistant John McBride reacted positively, from a unique perspective; he said that having an out gay player “helps us recruit every good, bright gay water polo player.”

Yet despite Brown’s atmosphere, Weintraub believed he was the school’s only out male varsity athlete playing a team sport. Hoping to build a community of people with related interests, he worked with the Queer Alliance to form an organization for GLBT athletes on campus.

On the online Daily Jolt – an Internet forum popular on many college campuses – someone asked about Weintraub’s query: “Gay athletes: Isn’t that contradictory?” However, for the most part, reaction was muted. That extended to Brown’s gay athletes themselves: Fewer than half a dozen came to meetings. Despite low numbers, they held intriguing discussions on topics like team dynamics and how to handle crushes on teammates.

Last fall, Weintraub extended his influence far beyond campus. Writing a blog for the NCAA website, he covered the collegiate water polo waterfront – including a discussion of his sexuality.

Weintraub says, “I think the NCAA chose Brown for the blog because we’re a tiny team, we had a new coach and no pool (the swim center was closed due to structural problems), but we were expected to do pretty well. The coach asked me if I wanted to write it. It was fun.”

His editor warned him not to come out online. “I was told this was a blog of an athlete, not a ‘gay athlete,'” Weintraub says. “They were worried that writing about being gay would distort the focus of the blog, or incite people.”

Eventually, an opportunity presented itself. During a game, an opponent called Weintraub “faggot.” Weintraub wrote that the comment reflected negatively on both the opponent and his school and offended him as a gay man.

“The editor toned down what I originally wrote, to make it more gentle,” he says. As with Brown’s gay athletes group, the reaction was low-key. A few people e-mailed Weintraub; the world did not end.

An East Asian studies major, Weintraub is spending the spring semester in Hong Kong. This summer he hopes to receive a Brown Sport and Society fellowship, to conduct research on gay athletes.

Looking ahead, he says, “I have one more season to go. And when I get back next fall, I’ll keep working on gay-athlete stuff.” He plans to meet with athletic director Michael Goldberger to talk about the school’s athletic culture.

“Our new coach told me there was never any real orientation program when he was hired. I think if an athlete says ‘I’m pregnant,’ ‘I’m on drugs,’ or ‘I’m gay,’ coaches need to know what resources are available.”

As for being kicked, scratched, elbowed, or grabbed by the balls, gay water polo athlete Hank Weintraub can handle that just fine.

Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soccer coach, gay activist, and author of the “Jocks” series of books on gay male athletes. Visit his website at He can be reached care of this publication or at [email protected].